Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, it's their problem with envy; why are you making it your problem?
It's a well known fact that as someone succeeds and rises above the crowd, he makes himself an easier target for others to hurl things; it's a fact of life. A test of your achievement and fortitude is how you react to the barrage.
Yah, I knew that. Also, no, it is not only the DJ success, it's all success. I have been making good money and connections, things that they would feel they can't do for some reason. Thanks for the advice.GloriouslyInsane said:But the real advice is this,get NEW friends.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You just described exactly what I was saying. The solution is simple. You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.Democles said:Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.
Gives new meaning to "you are known by the company you keep". Yep, I have to find a new crew with values and goals similar to mine.Francisco d'Anconia said:You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.