You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, it's their problem with envy; why are you making it your problem?
It's a well known fact that as someone succeeds and rises above the crowd, he makes himself an easier target for others to hurl things; it's a fact of life. A test of your achievement and fortitude is how you react to the barrage.
Yah, I knew that. Also, no, it is not only the DJ success, it's all success. I have been making good money and connections, things that they would feel they can't do for some reason. Thanks for the advice.GloriouslyInsane said:But the real advice is this,get NEW friends.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You just described exactly what I was saying. The solution is simple. You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.Democles said:Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.
Gives new meaning to "you are known by the company you keep". Yep, I have to find a new crew with values and goals similar to mine.Francisco d'Anconia said:You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.