She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, it's their problem with envy; why are you making it your problem?
It's a well known fact that as someone succeeds and rises above the crowd, he makes himself an easier target for others to hurl things; it's a fact of life. A test of your achievement and fortitude is how you react to the barrage.
Yah, I knew that. Also, no, it is not only the DJ success, it's all success. I have been making good money and connections, things that they would feel they can't do for some reason. Thanks for the advice.GloriouslyInsane said:But the real advice is this,get NEW friends.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You just described exactly what I was saying. The solution is simple. You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.Democles said:Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.
Gives new meaning to "you are known by the company you keep". Yep, I have to find a new crew with values and goals similar to mine.Francisco d'Anconia said:You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.