She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, it's their problem with envy; why are you making it your problem?
It's a well known fact that as someone succeeds and rises above the crowd, he makes himself an easier target for others to hurl things; it's a fact of life. A test of your achievement and fortitude is how you react to the barrage.
Yah, I knew that. Also, no, it is not only the DJ success, it's all success. I have been making good money and connections, things that they would feel they can't do for some reason. Thanks for the advice.GloriouslyInsane said:But the real advice is this,get NEW friends.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You just described exactly what I was saying. The solution is simple. You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.Democles said:Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.
Gives new meaning to "you are known by the company you keep". Yep, I have to find a new crew with values and goals similar to mine.Francisco d'Anconia said:You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.