That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.Francisco d'Anconia said:Ummm, it's their problem with envy; why are you making it your problem?
It's a well known fact that as someone succeeds and rises above the crowd, he makes himself an easier target for others to hurl things; it's a fact of life. A test of your achievement and fortitude is how you react to the barrage.
Yah, I knew that. Also, no, it is not only the DJ success, it's all success. I have been making good money and connections, things that they would feel they can't do for some reason. Thanks for the advice.GloriouslyInsane said:But the real advice is this,get NEW friends.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You just described exactly what I was saying. The solution is simple. You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.Democles said:Let me give you an example of why it has becomed my problem. I went out to a club with some of my buds, there I met some HBs and introduced them to my buds. I took a piss break and when I returned the HBs were put off. I didn't take any sh1t from them and asked the one I was interested why her attitude changed, she replied that my buds had warned her I am a player. I overcame that, although she was more guarded than normal after my buds spill. I still took her to a motel.
Gives new meaning to "you are known by the company you keep". Yep, I have to find a new crew with values and goals similar to mine.Francisco d'Anconia said:You need to choose whether you want to spend your time with your existing friends or find another crew of similar lifestyle as yourself. It's a choice between complacency or continued growth. The choice is yours.