How do you cure neediness?

[crowolf]

Everybody here knows that neediness is the biggest pu55y repellent.

However, how exactly do you fix that?

Lately I've been thinking about this.

Luckily, not for myself, but rather for 2 mates - different wingmen / friends.

One guy is 23, the other is 35. Both are very needy, and this stomps their efforts to successfully attract and have a woman by their side.

Maybe it comes with age or experience - when you've had enough of dealing with bs, and now you have no time for wasting time and energy. You stop chasing stupidly, and you actually know what you want and what you will not tolerate.

Maybe it comes from having talked to enough beautiful women, that it doesn't really phase you that much anymore. And you've also been "rejected" enough times, so you stop overthinking and putting massive importance too early on any new woman you've met.

Maybe it comes with abundance of options (although right now I don't have that, but the simple mindset of no forcing things and keeping my peace of mind actually makes me have 0 neediness, and it's amazing).

So, what do you think is the cure for neediness?

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Focusing on self mastery relentlessly until you're proud to work on yourself. You naturally become picky with whom you want to share your abundance with. There's no conscious "I need to focus on being less needy", it just manifests organically with enough self work through confidence and charisma. Easier said than done of course.

 

[Clockwerk50]

The less you seem to need other people, the more likely they are to be drawn to you. The cure for neediness is not making one person responsible for how you feel. When you rely on someone for attention or validation, it creates pressure, and that pressure pushes people away. When you understand this, neediness becomes easier to suppress because you stop treating others as something you must get something from, and instead interact without dependence or pressure, staying more comfortable on your own and naturally more attractive.

 

[plumber]

i have heard a few men tell something like... you should be comfortable being alone before you can be effective with others. when looking via the lens of neediness it makes sense. it teaches us to find our own approval instead of needing that from another.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It starts internally.

They don't believe they are the catch, and need constant reassurance from the woman that they are still interested.

Probably are lacking in Testosterone. So the first step is get their T levels checked.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Have a life! Yall too busy being bored af on the couch praying a woman texts you backs.

 

[Plinco]

Neediness is a symptom of a false sense of self trying to fill a void.

 

[BadBoy89]

Everybody here knows that neediness is the biggest pu55y repellent.

Luckily, not for myself, but rather for 2 mates - different wingmen / friends.

One guy is 23, the other is 35. Both are very needy, and this stomps their efforts to successfully attract and have a woman by their side.

So, what do you think is the cure for neediness?

Why don't you just tell your 2 mates what you do to not be needy. Why are you asking us?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Theres no cure other than self development

A lot of people really really struggle being alone or by themselves and need a source of constant stimulation / validation just to stop them going mental

friends and family can often only fill that void to a certain point

This is where the NEED for a partner and later kids comes in.

The funniest thing is when a needy woman and needy man meet it always burns white hot for the honey moon phase and then usually explodes later down the line

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Focusing on self mastery relentlessly until you're proud to work on yourself. You naturally become picky with whom you want to share your abundance with. There's no conscious "I need to focus on being less needy", it just manifests organically with enough self work through confidence and charisma. Easier said than done of course.

everything you just described sounds like mental masturbation to me

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The sub is going to hate this, but I'm that guy

In order of effectiveness - get laid (through an escort if you need to), masturbate, get engrossed in an interest, meditate

At least 3 should be easily available. 4 if you're not broke.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

everything you just described sounds like mental masturbation to me

It was the "relentlessly" bit that gave it away