SELF-MASTERY
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Why do you guys do it?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do you become a moderator?
- Thread starter B-Lemond
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
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I can't speak for the other guys, but I do it for the free ****tails in the Moderator's Corner from 5:30 to 7:00 every weekday evening.
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something 
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
You REALLY should delete the doggie blow job thread. Uhg.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Nothing changed until I got there.Originally posted by Vincent
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision
Spam still is there at times, people still hate you (or stalk you), and a lot of posters get away with muder.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Yea its friggin anarchy over here.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
penkitten
Master Don Juan
uh this job doesnt pay cash hahaha
The Antichrist_Star
Master Don Juan
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The benefits are pretty good.
Oh... and Allen makes a mean Margarita (*shhh* Gio... don't tell anyone where the happy hour meeting place is.
)AS
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
ya, i got one of thoseOriginally posted by Vincent
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all day