SELF-MASTERY
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Why do you guys do it?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I can't speak for the other guys, but I do it for the free ****tails in the Moderator's Corner from 5:30 to 7:00 every weekday evening.Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Why do you guys do it?
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decisionOriginally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Why do you guys do it?
Nothing changed until I got there.Originally posted by Vincent
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yea its friggin anarchy over here.Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
Nothing changed until I got there.
Spam still is there at times, people still hate you (or stalk you), and a lot of posters get away with muder.
uh this job doesnt pay cash hahahaOriginally posted by spider_007
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
The benefits are pretty good.Originally posted by spider_007
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all dayOriginally posted by spider_007
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ya, i got one of thoseOriginally posted by Vincent
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all dayIt's kinda my job.
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It sucks, I really want to be outside doing things instead of sitting in a cubicle all day.Originally posted by spider_007
ya, i got one of those![]()