SELF-MASTERY
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Why do you guys do it?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do you become a moderator?
- Thread starter B-Lemond
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
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- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
I can't speak for the other guys, but I do it for the free ****tails in the Moderator's Corner from 5:30 to 7:00 every weekday evening.
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something 
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
You REALLY should delete the doggie blow job thread. Uhg.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Nothing changed until I got there.Originally posted by Vincent
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision
Spam still is there at times, people still hate you (or stalk you), and a lot of posters get away with muder.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Yea its friggin anarchy over here.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
penkitten
Master Don Juan
uh this job doesnt pay cash hahaha
The Antichrist_Star
Master Don Juan
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The benefits are pretty good.
Oh... and Allen makes a mean Margarita (*shhh* Gio... don't tell anyone where the happy hour meeting place is.
)AS
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
ya, i got one of thoseOriginally posted by Vincent
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all day