SELF-MASTERY
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Why do you guys do it?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do you become a moderator?
- Thread starter B-Lemond
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
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I can't speak for the other guys, but I do it for the free ****tails in the Moderator's Corner from 5:30 to 7:00 every weekday evening.
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something 
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision
Create Reality
Master Don Juan
You REALLY should delete the doggie blow job thread. Uhg.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Nothing changed until I got there.Originally posted by Vincent
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision
Spam still is there at times, people still hate you (or stalk you), and a lot of posters get away with muder.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Yea its friggin anarchy over here.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
penkitten
Master Don Juan
uh this job doesnt pay cash hahaha
The Antichrist_Star
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The benefits are pretty good.
Oh... and Allen makes a mean Margarita (*shhh* Gio... don't tell anyone where the happy hour meeting place is.
)AS
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
ya, i got one of thoseOriginally posted by Vincent
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all day