SELF-MASTERY
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Why do you guys do it?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I can't speak for the other guys, but I do it for the free ****tails in the Moderator's Corner from 5:30 to 7:00 every weekday evening.Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Why do you guys do it?
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decisionOriginally posted by SELF-MASTERY
Why do you guys do it?
Nothing changed until I got there.Originally posted by Vincent
/\/\/\/\ I knew I was missing out on something
Because before I was a Mod, HS was a complete mess. Very inactive mods and people were getting away with murder. Spam was left up for days, etc. I just wanted to help the site, but apparently it was a bad decision![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yea its friggin anarchy over here.Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
Nothing changed until I got there.
Spam still is there at times, people still hate you (or stalk you), and a lot of posters get away with muder.
uh this job doesnt pay cash hahahaOriginally posted by spider_007
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
The benefits are pretty good.Originally posted by spider_007
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all dayOriginally posted by spider_007
do you guys have reall jobs, or do you guys sit around a computer all day doing this stuff?????
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ya, i got one of thoseOriginally posted by Vincent
Well yes, I have a job, but I do sit around on a computer all dayIt's kinda my job.
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It sucks, I really want to be outside doing things instead of sitting in a cubicle all day.Originally posted by spider_007
ya, i got one of those![]()