I used to be her male orbiter, I've not spoken to her for 2 years cos I was not in the country. I'm suppose to meet her this weekend to catch up. I don't want to be her shoulder to cry on cos she's been depressed since she's broke up 2 weeks ago. Would she be looking for rebound sex during this crying/not eating period? How can I no longer be framed as an orbiter and take advantage?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how do i get rebound sex from a girl who broke up with her bf of 2 years?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
Just get touchy/feely, give her hugs. Whatever. She will be craving for it after 2 weeks.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Lean back,play it cool. Let her throw herself at you. IF she wants to whine about her ex-stop it. IF you let her cry on your shoulder,you are STILL her friend/orbiter. A bit of kino is OK,BUT-no nice friend hugs without a kiss. Let her KNOW you aren't there to be her friend.
iliketennis
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it's going to be tough.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
fixdtobylikestennis said:
Yeah I was going to mention that, she's probably going to want to talk about her ex all the time, she already started bits of it on the phone yesterday. How do I deflect this crying about her ex talk? Like what do I say specifically?sodbuster said:
I can't say 'I'm not here to be your friend' or can i?
Shes probably not gonna get with you buddy. Shes gonna smell that your only there for one thing. Why the h*ll is she gonna want some rebound sex from her old AFC orbiter buddy after only being broken up for 2 weeks? No way.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.