I used to be her male orbiter, I've not spoken to her for 2 years cos I was not in the country. I'm suppose to meet her this weekend to catch up. I don't want to be her shoulder to cry on cos she's been depressed since she's broke up 2 weeks ago. Would she be looking for rebound sex during this crying/not eating period? How can I no longer be framed as an orbiter and take advantage?
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how do i get rebound sex from a girl who broke up with her bf of 2 years?
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HariPoter13
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Just get touchy/feely, give her hugs. Whatever. She will be craving for it after 2 weeks.
sodbuster
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Lean back,play it cool. Let her throw herself at you. IF she wants to whine about her ex-stop it. IF you let her cry on your shoulder,you are STILL her friend/orbiter. A bit of kino is OK,BUT-no nice friend hugs without a kiss. Let her KNOW you aren't there to be her friend.
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it's going to be tough.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
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fixdtobylikestennis said:
Yeah I was going to mention that, she's probably going to want to talk about her ex all the time, she already started bits of it on the phone yesterday. How do I deflect this crying about her ex talk? Like what do I say specifically?sodbuster said:
I can't say 'I'm not here to be your friend' or can i?
Shes probably not gonna get with you buddy. Shes gonna smell that your only there for one thing. Why the h*ll is she gonna want some rebound sex from her old AFC orbiter buddy after only being broken up for 2 weeks? No way.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.