I used to be her male orbiter, I've not spoken to her for 2 years cos I was not in the country. I'm suppose to meet her this weekend to catch up. I don't want to be her shoulder to cry on cos she's been depressed since she's broke up 2 weeks ago. Would she be looking for rebound sex during this crying/not eating period? How can I no longer be framed as an orbiter and take advantage?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
how do i get rebound sex from a girl who broke up with her bf of 2 years?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
Just get touchy/feely, give her hugs. Whatever. She will be craving for it after 2 weeks.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Lean back,play it cool. Let her throw herself at you. IF she wants to whine about her ex-stop it. IF you let her cry on your shoulder,you are STILL her friend/orbiter. A bit of kino is OK,BUT-no nice friend hugs without a kiss. Let her KNOW you aren't there to be her friend.
iliketennis
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it's going to be tough.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
fixdtobylikestennis said:
Yeah I was going to mention that, she's probably going to want to talk about her ex all the time, she already started bits of it on the phone yesterday. How do I deflect this crying about her ex talk? Like what do I say specifically?sodbuster said:
I can't say 'I'm not here to be your friend' or can i?
Shes probably not gonna get with you buddy. Shes gonna smell that your only there for one thing. Why the h*ll is she gonna want some rebound sex from her old AFC orbiter buddy after only being broken up for 2 weeks? No way.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.