I used to be her male orbiter, I've not spoken to her for 2 years cos I was not in the country. I'm suppose to meet her this weekend to catch up. I don't want to be her shoulder to cry on cos she's been depressed since she's broke up 2 weeks ago. Would she be looking for rebound sex during this crying/not eating period? How can I no longer be framed as an orbiter and take advantage?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
how do i get rebound sex from a girl who broke up with her bf of 2 years?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
Just get touchy/feely, give her hugs. Whatever. She will be craving for it after 2 weeks.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Lean back,play it cool. Let her throw herself at you. IF she wants to whine about her ex-stop it. IF you let her cry on your shoulder,you are STILL her friend/orbiter. A bit of kino is OK,BUT-no nice friend hugs without a kiss. Let her KNOW you aren't there to be her friend.
iliketennis
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it's going to be tough.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
fixdtobylikestennis said:
Yeah I was going to mention that, she's probably going to want to talk about her ex all the time, she already started bits of it on the phone yesterday. How do I deflect this crying about her ex talk? Like what do I say specifically?sodbuster said:
I can't say 'I'm not here to be your friend' or can i?
Shes probably not gonna get with you buddy. Shes gonna smell that your only there for one thing. Why the h*ll is she gonna want some rebound sex from her old AFC orbiter buddy after only being broken up for 2 weeks? No way.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.