I used to be her male orbiter, I've not spoken to her for 2 years cos I was not in the country. I'm suppose to meet her this weekend to catch up. I don't want to be her shoulder to cry on cos she's been depressed since she's broke up 2 weeks ago. Would she be looking for rebound sex during this crying/not eating period? How can I no longer be framed as an orbiter and take advantage?
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how do i get rebound sex from a girl who broke up with her bf of 2 years?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
Just get touchy/feely, give her hugs. Whatever. She will be craving for it after 2 weeks.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
Lean back,play it cool. Let her throw herself at you. IF she wants to whine about her ex-stop it. IF you let her cry on your shoulder,you are STILL her friend/orbiter. A bit of kino is OK,BUT-no nice friend hugs without a kiss. Let her KNOW you aren't there to be her friend.
iliketennis
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it's going to be tough.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
you gotta change your old image in her eyes.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
HariPoter13
Senior Don Juan
fixdtobylikestennis said:
Yeah I was going to mention that, she's probably going to want to talk about her ex all the time, she already started bits of it on the phone yesterday. How do I deflect this crying about her ex talk? Like what do I say specifically?sodbuster said:
I can't say 'I'm not here to be your friend' or can i?
Shes probably not gonna get with you buddy. Shes gonna smell that your only there for one thing. Why the h*ll is she gonna want some rebound sex from her old AFC orbiter buddy after only being broken up for 2 weeks? No way.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.
unless youve changed your ways, and come off as a completely new guy, not being an AFC, which you still seem to be.
Go out and have fun with her and try and cheer her up.