"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do guys get girls while being nice? Here is how

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Zan had perfectly summed up what I wanted to figure out for like 4 years:

A woman will never be offended by your sexual desire for her, as long as it has no presumption. - Zan

THIS. IS. KEY.

Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.

You can get away with sooooooo much stuff that people fret over here if you just remember a few key things. This is one of them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Oxide said:
Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.
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Both of those are charmless. I don't think you should worry too much about 'offending' women. Giving them the frame and all that.

However, if you are recommending having a non-needy, devil-may-care approach to expressing your sexuality, then I agree 100%.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm saying that guys tend to think that you just CAN'T do certain things because well - the girl will just lose interest.

Well what happens is once you get to the point of absolute acceptance as yourself you can get away with murder.

Would a girl turn down Brad Pitt if he was to pay her a compliment? Well become your own Brad Pitt. Here is an excellent question from Zan: "Ask yourself - do women fantasize about me?" If the answer is no, figure out why not and get there.
 
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So here it is: The difference between a genuinely good man who ATTRACTS women and one who ultimately does not is centered around from what position he is coming from in performing his "good guy" behavior. Men who act "nice" from a position of WEAKNESS end up rejected. Men who are in a position of STRENGTH, yet who treat women well often make women so crazy for them that they have more options than they can handle.
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