How do guys get girls while being nice? Here is how

[Oxide]

Zan had perfectly summed up what I wanted to figure out for like 4 years:

A woman will never be offended by your sexual desire for her, as long as it has no presumption. - Zan

THIS. IS. KEY.

Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.

You can get away with sooooooo much stuff that people fret over here if you just remember a few key things. This is one of them.

 

[nicenomore]

Heres a good article regarding the above:

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/goodmen.htm

 

[insidious]

Heres a good article regarding the above:

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/goodmen.htm

That was a great article.
As always, it's a question of "acting" versus "being."

What are you?

 

[nicenomore]

Thanks insidious

What are you?

What do you mean by the above? As in I'm nice or good?

 

[Nighthawk]

Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.

Both of those are charmless. I don't think you should worry too much about 'offending' women. Giving them the frame and all that.

However, if you are recommending having a non-needy, devil-may-care approach to expressing your sexuality, then I agree 100%.

 

[Oxide]

I'm saying that guys tend to think that you just CAN'T do certain things because well - the girl will just lose interest.

Well what happens is once you get to the point of absolute acceptance as yourself you can get away with murder.

Would a girl turn down Brad Pitt if he was to pay her a compliment? Well become your own Brad Pitt. Here is an excellent question from Zan: "Ask yourself - do women fantasize about me?" If the answer is no, figure out why not and get there.

 

[Docs]

So here it is: The difference between a genuinely good man who ATTRACTS women and one who ultimately does not is centered around from what position he is coming from in performing his "good guy" behavior. Men who act "nice" from a position of WEAKNESS end up rejected. Men who are in a position of STRENGTH, yet who treat women well often make women so crazy for them that they have more options than they can handle.

Huge!

 

[spesmilitis]

going in my personal dj bible

who is this zan btw??