"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do guys get girls while being nice? Here is how

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Zan had perfectly summed up what I wanted to figure out for like 4 years:

A woman will never be offended by your sexual desire for her, as long as it has no presumption. - Zan

THIS. IS. KEY.

Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.

You can get away with sooooooo much stuff that people fret over here if you just remember a few key things. This is one of them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Oxide said:
Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.
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Both of those are charmless. I don't think you should worry too much about 'offending' women. Giving them the frame and all that.

However, if you are recommending having a non-needy, devil-may-care approach to expressing your sexuality, then I agree 100%.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm saying that guys tend to think that you just CAN'T do certain things because well - the girl will just lose interest.

Well what happens is once you get to the point of absolute acceptance as yourself you can get away with murder.

Would a girl turn down Brad Pitt if he was to pay her a compliment? Well become your own Brad Pitt. Here is an excellent question from Zan: "Ask yourself - do women fantasize about me?" If the answer is no, figure out why not and get there.
 
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So here it is: The difference between a genuinely good man who ATTRACTS women and one who ultimately does not is centered around from what position he is coming from in performing his "good guy" behavior. Men who act "nice" from a position of WEAKNESS end up rejected. Men who are in a position of STRENGTH, yet who treat women well often make women so crazy for them that they have more options than they can handle.
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