"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do guys get girls while being nice? Here is how

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Zan had perfectly summed up what I wanted to figure out for like 4 years:

A woman will never be offended by your sexual desire for her, as long as it has no presumption. - Zan

THIS. IS. KEY.

Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.

You can get away with sooooooo much stuff that people fret over here if you just remember a few key things. This is one of them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Oxide said:
Think of a cool guy saying "Wow you are amazing!!" versus a construction worker saying "Nice legs baby!" as she walks by.
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Both of those are charmless. I don't think you should worry too much about 'offending' women. Giving them the frame and all that.

However, if you are recommending having a non-needy, devil-may-care approach to expressing your sexuality, then I agree 100%.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm saying that guys tend to think that you just CAN'T do certain things because well - the girl will just lose interest.

Well what happens is once you get to the point of absolute acceptance as yourself you can get away with murder.

Would a girl turn down Brad Pitt if he was to pay her a compliment? Well become your own Brad Pitt. Here is an excellent question from Zan: "Ask yourself - do women fantasize about me?" If the answer is no, figure out why not and get there.
 
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So here it is: The difference between a genuinely good man who ATTRACTS women and one who ultimately does not is centered around from what position he is coming from in performing his "good guy" behavior. Men who act "nice" from a position of WEAKNESS end up rejected. Men who are in a position of STRENGTH, yet who treat women well often make women so crazy for them that they have more options than they can handle.
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