"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

How did you know he was the one?

BeExcellent

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2015
Messages
5,426
Reaction score
7,958
Age
57
Ok. Here’s how we met. Out at a nightclub & live music venue. He has long blonde hair & dresses like a rock star. Very LA vibe. He’s tall & unique looking as well as handsome. So I saw him. I was on a double date with someone else. My date (who I’ve known for a while) got stupid drunk & was acting like an idiot. My fiancé actually thought I must be married to my date.

Some handsome guy had bought wine for my girlfriend and I after her date got irritated by my date & left to go home. We had other friends their (and my intent was to give my date a ride home, which didn’t happen he was far too obnoxious).

So my girlfriend and I were looking for a place to get a new drink (the place was packed) and the only spot where you could get up to the bar was next to my fiancé. I found out later he had shoo-ed away his friends when he saw me walking that way in hopes I’d come to that space, which I did. He was right next to me & looking at me & half smiling/smirking a little & so I broke the ice by saying “so how’s your night?” And he engaged in conversation.

We chatted until we each went home with our friends. The next morning he texted & asked me out for breakfast. And here we are.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

kavi

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 2, 2022
Messages
803
Reaction score
670
Age
42
OMG the state of men - this thread is hilarious.

BeExcellent such a boss she 'opened' her hot younger fiance at a nightclub after her failure of a date went home.

So to answer OPs question, be good-looking with good style etc and the quality woman you are looking for will come up to you and start conversation.
 

DoubleBarrel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
488
Reaction score
192
Location
Winnipeg
OMG the state of men - this thread is hilarious.

BeExcellent such a boss she 'opened' her hot younger fiance at a nightclub after her failure of a date went home.

So to answer OPs question, be good-looking with good style etc and the quality woman you are looking for will come up to you and start conversation.
Don't give up on Life, man!!! Love and Prosperity can be yours.
 

DoubleBarrel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
488
Reaction score
192
Location
Winnipeg
Quality women ARE out there, and they respond to Certain types of Men.

What's stopping us from being one?!?!?!?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

DoubleBarrel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
488
Reaction score
192
Location
Winnipeg
Ok. Here’s how we met. Out at a nightclub & live music venue. He has long blonde hair & dresses like a rock star. Very LA vibe. He’s tall & unique looking as well as handsome. So I saw him. I was on a double date with someone else. My date (who I’ve known for a while) got stupid drunk & was acting like an idiot. My fiancé actually thought I must be married to my date.

Some handsome guy had bought wine for my girlfriend and I after her date got irritated by my date & left to go home. We had other friends their (and my intent was to give my date a ride home, which didn’t happen he was far too obnoxious).

So my girlfriend and I were looking for a place to get a new drink (the place was packed) and the only spot where you could get up to the bar was next to my fiancé. I found out later he had shoo-ed away his friends when he saw me walking that way in hopes I’d come to that space, which I did. He was right next to me & looking at me & half smiling/smirking a little & so I broke the ice by saying “so how’s your night?” And he engaged in conversation.

We chatted until we each went home with our friends. The next morning he texted & asked me out for breakfast. And here we are.
I love it!

EDIT: This story is an inspiration to me, Queen Bee. I've been kinda been down and out, thinking with the Slut Epidemic, that I'll never find a youthful, cute and loyal wife at 42. But you prove it's doable. Thank-you!!! You're a beacon of Hope to all the true SoSuavers, the guys that just want a quality, loyal mate, for Christ's sake! Is it so tough!?! Apparently, today, it is!! F*ck!!
 
Last edited:

kavi

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 2, 2022
Messages
803
Reaction score
670
Age
42
Quality women ARE out there, and they respond to Certain types of Men.

What's stopping us from being one?!?!?!?
Bruh in Bees story it was the guy 'responding' to the womans approach. We dont even know if BeExcellent really did go to get a drink, or just went to approach a good-looking guy. I bet she didnt even go for a drink, though it would be a good excuse to go stand next to the attractive guy and make convo.

I am sure attractive guys with long blonde hair go down well with BeExcellents social group.

I am v good looking but not the type of look or ethnicity most women often go for, so I dont get approached like that nor do I get the easy ride like some guys (who are the right type) get. It means I need to put the work in, which i really dont mind, cos it kinda is where most of the fun is.
 

DoubleBarrel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
488
Reaction score
192
Location
Winnipeg
Bruh in Bees story it was the guy 'responding' to the womans approach. We dont even know if BeExcellent really did go to get a drink, or just went to approach a good-looking guy. I bet she didnt even go for a drink, though it would be a good excuse to go stand next to the attractive guy and make convo.

I am sure attractive guys with long blonde hair go down well with BeExcellents social group.

I am v good looking but not the type of look or ethnicity most women often go for, so I dont get approached like that nor do I get the easy ride like some guys (who are the right type) get. It means I need to put the work in, which i really dont mind, cos it kinda is where most of the fun is.
Jesus Christ, man! F*ck caring about being in positions to meet women.

Once you do, they appear!

And the great ones too!

I know, that contradicts my original post, but mark my words, I'm gonna recruit Queen Bee and Meow into a private forum devoted to achieving peoples' Peace, Joy and Happiness before long, and they'll accept!

:)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

DoubleBarrel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
488
Reaction score
192
Location
Winnipeg
This is my husband too and I was drawn to him immediately! There are women like me who don't go for your classic good looking model types, in truth when I lived and worked in NYC and LA, I turned down dates with such guys who were a dime a dozen.

When I did on line, men with classic "model type" looks went straight to delete! 100% truth, ask any of my friends who never understood it, but I just never found that "look" appealing.

I do prefer a well toned body (swimmer's physique), something about a man "working" for it, but as far as face, I was always drawn to the unusual, that somethin somethin that was unique to me but perhaps not to another women.
You love the crooked nose, doncha, Meow??
 

kavi

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 2, 2022
Messages
803
Reaction score
670
Age
42
This is my husband too and I was drawn to him immediately! There are women like me who don't go for your classic good looking model types, in truth when I lived and worked in NYC and LA, I turned down dates with such guys who were a dime a dozen.

When I did on line, men with classic "model type" looks went straight to delete! 100% truth, ask any of my friends who never understood it, but I just never found that "look" appealing.

I do prefer a well toned body (swimmer's physique), something about a man "working" for it, but as far as face, I was always drawn to the unusual, that somethin somethin that was unique to me but perhaps not to another women.
For sure, and I have also noticed that 'typically' good looking guys ie model looks tend to lack in many areas as they have always had that easy success.
 

DoubleBarrel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2007
Messages
488
Reaction score
192
Location
Winnipeg
For sure, and I have also noticed that 'typically' good looking guys ie model looks tend to lack in many areas as they have always had that easy success.
I'm cutting in.

F*ck that.

Every man has what it takes to secure a High Quality woman!

Sometimes, we just lose our way. :(
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

BeExcellent

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2015
Messages
5,426
Reaction score
7,958
Age
57
OMG the state of men - this thread is hilarious.

BeExcellent such a boss she 'opened' her hot younger fiance at a nightclub after her failure of a date went home.

So to answer OPs question, be good-looking with good style etc and the quality woman you are looking for will come up to you and start conversation.
Nah. My ‘date’ was my playboy friend I occasionally hang around with. The other guy was who I actually dating. And my girlfriend was along. We had all been at a dinner party together, playboy offended the hostess being too forward and we went to meet friends out. It’s easier to call it a double date for simplicity, and also because my fiancé thought it was when we showed up two guys, two girls. My playboy friend was drunk, sloshed his drink on the other guy, whose old fraternity brother owned the venue. So Guy A got put out with Guy B’s behavior & didn’t want to be associated with the drunk behavior that night. Can’t blame him. I drove so I was everyone’s ride. I told my playboy buddy his behavior actually IS out of hand so he got mad at me (because drunk people are do dumb **** & it is what it is.)

But yeah. My guy saw me when I walked in, thought I was taken. It’s cool when he tells the story actually, I get the part of it I wasn’t aware of, that he thought I was the hottest girl there and assumed I must be married.

Good stuff.
 
Last edited:

BackInTheGame78

Moderator
Joined
Sep 10, 2014
Messages
16,983
Reaction score
19,319
Lmao...OP if you post something, the thread is open to anyone on the board. You don't get to "open it up" at a later time.
 

BeExcellent

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 16, 2015
Messages
5,426
Reaction score
7,958
Age
57
I know, I'm such a brat. :)
I will say this. Bratty behavior and over consumption of booze is not attractive after a while. It makes you look childish. And that is not how to attract a great woman.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Top