"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ok. Here’s how we met. Out at a nightclub & live music venue. He has long blonde hair & dresses like a rock star. Very LA vibe. He’s tall & unique looking as well as handsome. So I saw him. I was on a double date with someone else. My date (who I’ve known for a while) got stupid drunk & was acting like an idiot. My fiancé actually thought I must be married to my date.

Some handsome guy had bought wine for my girlfriend and I after her date got irritated by my date & left to go home. We had other friends their (and my intent was to give my date a ride home, which didn’t happen he was far too obnoxious).

So my girlfriend and I were looking for a place to get a new drink (the place was packed) and the only spot where you could get up to the bar was next to my fiancé. I found out later he had shoo-ed away his friends when he saw me walking that way in hopes I’d come to that space, which I did. He was right next to me & looking at me & half smiling/smirking a little & so I broke the ice by saying “so how’s your night?” And he engaged in conversation.

We chatted until we each went home with our friends. The next morning he texted & asked me out for breakfast. And here we are.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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OMG the state of men - this thread is hilarious.

BeExcellent such a boss she 'opened' her hot younger fiance at a nightclub after her failure of a date went home.

So to answer OPs question, be good-looking with good style etc and the quality woman you are looking for will come up to you and start conversation.
 

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OMG the state of men - this thread is hilarious.

BeExcellent such a boss she 'opened' her hot younger fiance at a nightclub after her failure of a date went home.

So to answer OPs question, be good-looking with good style etc and the quality woman you are looking for will come up to you and start conversation.
Don't give up on Life, man!!! Love and Prosperity can be yours.
 

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Quality women ARE out there, and they respond to Certain types of Men.

What's stopping us from being one?!?!?!?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ok. Here’s how we met. Out at a nightclub & live music venue. He has long blonde hair & dresses like a rock star. Very LA vibe. He’s tall & unique looking as well as handsome. So I saw him. I was on a double date with someone else. My date (who I’ve known for a while) got stupid drunk & was acting like an idiot. My fiancé actually thought I must be married to my date.

Some handsome guy had bought wine for my girlfriend and I after her date got irritated by my date & left to go home. We had other friends their (and my intent was to give my date a ride home, which didn’t happen he was far too obnoxious).

So my girlfriend and I were looking for a place to get a new drink (the place was packed) and the only spot where you could get up to the bar was next to my fiancé. I found out later he had shoo-ed away his friends when he saw me walking that way in hopes I’d come to that space, which I did. He was right next to me & looking at me & half smiling/smirking a little & so I broke the ice by saying “so how’s your night?” And he engaged in conversation.

We chatted until we each went home with our friends. The next morning he texted & asked me out for breakfast. And here we are.
I love it!

EDIT: This story is an inspiration to me, Queen Bee. I've been kinda been down and out, thinking with the Slut Epidemic, that I'll never find a youthful, cute and loyal wife at 42. But you prove it's doable. Thank-you!!! You're a beacon of Hope to all the true SoSuavers, the guys that just want a quality, loyal mate, for Christ's sake! Is it so tough!?! Apparently, today, it is!! F*ck!!
 
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Quality women ARE out there, and they respond to Certain types of Men.

What's stopping us from being one?!?!?!?
Bruh in Bees story it was the guy 'responding' to the womans approach. We dont even know if BeExcellent really did go to get a drink, or just went to approach a good-looking guy. I bet she didnt even go for a drink, though it would be a good excuse to go stand next to the attractive guy and make convo.

I am sure attractive guys with long blonde hair go down well with BeExcellents social group.

I am v good looking but not the type of look or ethnicity most women often go for, so I dont get approached like that nor do I get the easy ride like some guys (who are the right type) get. It means I need to put the work in, which i really dont mind, cos it kinda is where most of the fun is.
 

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Bruh in Bees story it was the guy 'responding' to the womans approach. We dont even know if BeExcellent really did go to get a drink, or just went to approach a good-looking guy. I bet she didnt even go for a drink, though it would be a good excuse to go stand next to the attractive guy and make convo.

I am sure attractive guys with long blonde hair go down well with BeExcellents social group.

I am v good looking but not the type of look or ethnicity most women often go for, so I dont get approached like that nor do I get the easy ride like some guys (who are the right type) get. It means I need to put the work in, which i really dont mind, cos it kinda is where most of the fun is.
Jesus Christ, man! F*ck caring about being in positions to meet women.

Once you do, they appear!

And the great ones too!

I know, that contradicts my original post, but mark my words, I'm gonna recruit Queen Bee and Meow into a private forum devoted to achieving peoples' Peace, Joy and Happiness before long, and they'll accept!

:)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is my husband too and I was drawn to him immediately! There are women like me who don't go for your classic good looking model types, in truth when I lived and worked in NYC and LA, I turned down dates with such guys who were a dime a dozen.

When I did on line, men with classic "model type" looks went straight to delete! 100% truth, ask any of my friends who never understood it, but I just never found that "look" appealing.

I do prefer a well toned body (swimmer's physique), something about a man "working" for it, but as far as face, I was always drawn to the unusual, that somethin somethin that was unique to me but perhaps not to another women.
You love the crooked nose, doncha, Meow??
 

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This is my husband too and I was drawn to him immediately! There are women like me who don't go for your classic good looking model types, in truth when I lived and worked in NYC and LA, I turned down dates with such guys who were a dime a dozen.

When I did on line, men with classic "model type" looks went straight to delete! 100% truth, ask any of my friends who never understood it, but I just never found that "look" appealing.

I do prefer a well toned body (swimmer's physique), something about a man "working" for it, but as far as face, I was always drawn to the unusual, that somethin somethin that was unique to me but perhaps not to another women.
For sure, and I have also noticed that 'typically' good looking guys ie model looks tend to lack in many areas as they have always had that easy success.
 

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For sure, and I have also noticed that 'typically' good looking guys ie model looks tend to lack in many areas as they have always had that easy success.
I'm cutting in.

F*ck that.

Every man has what it takes to secure a High Quality woman!

Sometimes, we just lose our way. :(
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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OMG the state of men - this thread is hilarious.

BeExcellent such a boss she 'opened' her hot younger fiance at a nightclub after her failure of a date went home.

So to answer OPs question, be good-looking with good style etc and the quality woman you are looking for will come up to you and start conversation.
Nah. My ‘date’ was my playboy friend I occasionally hang around with. The other guy was who I actually dating. And my girlfriend was along. We had all been at a dinner party together, playboy offended the hostess being too forward and we went to meet friends out. It’s easier to call it a double date for simplicity, and also because my fiancé thought it was when we showed up two guys, two girls. My playboy friend was drunk, sloshed his drink on the other guy, whose old fraternity brother owned the venue. So Guy A got put out with Guy B’s behavior & didn’t want to be associated with the drunk behavior that night. Can’t blame him. I drove so I was everyone’s ride. I told my playboy buddy his behavior actually IS out of hand so he got mad at me (because drunk people are do dumb **** & it is what it is.)

But yeah. My guy saw me when I walked in, thought I was taken. It’s cool when he tells the story actually, I get the part of it I wasn’t aware of, that he thought I was the hottest girl there and assumed I must be married.

Good stuff.
 
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Lmao...OP if you post something, the thread is open to anyone on the board. You don't get to "open it up" at a later time.
 

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I know, I'm such a brat. :)
I will say this. Bratty behavior and over consumption of booze is not attractive after a while. It makes you look childish. And that is not how to attract a great woman.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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