thunder_god
Master Don Juan
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No that was just an example I made up to show ppl how to post it. I actually only had 1 instadate so far.JaegerPilot217 said:But no second dates?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No that was just an example I made up to show ppl how to post it. I actually only had 1 instadate so far.JaegerPilot217 said:But no second dates?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Also when you said you are becoming more comfortable touching girls, specifically how are you touching them? Because I know touching is critical in order to avoid being friend-zoned but it has to be done a certain way so you don't risk sexual harassmentthunder_god said:No that was just an example I made up to show ppl how to post it. I actually only had 1 instadate so far.
Holding there hands longer, touching them on the shoulder, etc. I also tried the grabbing girls elbows at a pub when it was packed. I found opening with the shoulder touch worked best so far for me.JaegerPilot217 said:Also when you said you are becoming more comfortable touching girls, specifically how are you touching them? Because I know touching is critical in order to avoid being friend-zoned but it has to be done a certain way so you don't risk sexual harassment
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sounds like a negative mindsetNycbkdude said:Well a lot has to do with how you feel about your self "confidence" if you feel good and look good your confidence is high and you will have an easier time.
Put emphasis on clothing and fitness.
Don't put Pu$$y on a pedestal.
it sort of became a routine, ever since i was about 18 i just became at ease around females and being straight forward and "****y" also works sometimes.
Just be confident and you should be good.
FYI i have friends that try picking up girls alongside me and most times their attempts are futile.
Everyone is different not everyone can do it.