"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How Did This Second Date Conversation Go?

soulforge

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Another UPDATE

So she came over again last night to watch a movie with me, half way through my c0ck ended up in her mouth.

Smashed all night.

Picked up a few more red flags.. This time a male friend is coming to stay with her, so she is looking to buy a bed, so he can sleep in the spare room.

This one is a walking talking red flag..

Anyhow going to arrange another sex date for next weekend and maybe push towards a threesome with her.

Nice girl, but she has TOTALLY ruled herself out of anything more than being my cvm dumpster.

Seriously how come chicks make it so obvious how damaged they are?

You would think they would try to keep it hidden.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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soulforge

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This chick is a strange one.

Again on the weekend I smashed the hell out of her.. She was all over me, kissing and cuddling me etc.

Again not a single text message from her, other than the one I sent her the other day to arrange another date.

I'm just going to keep arranging sex dates with her. And won't bother texting her anything in between.

I get the feeling, if I stopped making ALL the effort, she would just drop off.

Hoes operate on an all together DGAF level these days.
 

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This chick is a strange one.

Again on the weekend I smashed the hell out of her.. She was all over me, kissing and cuddling me etc.

Again not a single text message from her, other than the one I sent her the other day to arrange another date.

I'm just going to keep arranging sex dates with her. And won't bother texting her anything in between.

I get the feeling, if I stopped making ALL the effort, she would just drop off.

Hoes operate on an all together DGAF level these days.
Probably because she has other guys doing the same thing you are. Why should she put in effort if she’s being catered to?
 

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Probably because she has other guys doing the same thing you are. Why should she put in effort if she’s being catered to?
You could be right on this.. I've had plates before who would hit you up, once a while.. But this one goes totally off the grid.

At what point does this become a matter of self respect?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You could be right on this.. I've had plates before who would hit you up, once a while.. But this one goes totally off the grid.

At what point does this become a matter of self respect?
If you want someone who reaches out as much as you are - even if it is purely sexual - then this isn’t the right woman for you in a roster. Plus, all the flags you mention, they matter to you.
So at what point does this become a matter of self respect? It becomes one when you allow things to go against your values.
 

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You keep repeating she’s a *** dumpster/pump and dump, then moaning she’s not texting you first?

You either like her more than you’re letting on (very likely) or just very needy/not sure how a pump and dump works.

What do you really want from this girl? I thought it was sex, which you’re getting. Why do you care if her interest is obv low?
 

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You keep repeating she’s a *** dumpster/pump and dump, then moaning she’s not texting you first?

You either like her more than you’re letting on (very likely) or just very needy/not sure how a pump and dump works.

What do you really want from this girl? I thought it was sex, which you’re getting. Why do you care if her interest is obv low?
It’s damaging his ego
 

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You keep repeating she’s a *** dumpster/pump and dump, then moaning she’s not texting you first?

You either like her more than you’re letting on (very likely) or just very needy/not sure how a pump and dump works.

What do you really want from this girl? I thought it was sex, which you’re getting. Why do you care if her interest is obv low?
I just want to continue fukin her man.. NOTHING else.. However I feel like a dik for doing all the texting.

Kinda goes against my principles.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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At what point does this become a matter of self respect?
When she stops fvcking, replying, or starts putting you 2nd, flaking, being late or playing games.

By all standards this woman is a dream, she fcks without fcking brain.

You keep screening her for relationship material, alpha male.**sarcasm**
 
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