Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
if this happens too often, it's not good...you should aim to make them comfortable with you...i think comfort is the key.Originally posted by DJnoob
can you guys help make a list of things
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
that's not trueOriginally posted by h2o
just realize that a girl who is truly attracted to you will never approach you...
That is bloody gold.Originally posted by darth yoda
-Be a race that she is afraid of (I get that alot)
I just snorted water out of my nostrils...Originally posted by quest
That is bloody gold.
Mum, today i'm going to <insert race here> and intimidate some girls. I'll be home for dinner.
^^^i need 2 try that cuzz....defenetly....Originally posted by darth yoda
-Look crazy
-Look too good for them (out of their league)
-Be a race that she is afraid of (I get that alot)
-Be really big
-Say things like "a little rape is fun!"
-Randomly shout things out like, "I ain't going back!"
Have fun