You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
if this happens too often, it's not good...you should aim to make them comfortable with you...i think comfort is the key.Originally posted by DJnoob
can you guys help make a list of things
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
that's not trueOriginally posted by h2o
just realize that a girl who is truly attracted to you will never approach you...
That is bloody gold.Originally posted by darth yoda
-Be a race that she is afraid of (I get that alot)
I just snorted water out of my nostrils...Originally posted by quest
That is bloody gold.
Mum, today i'm going to <insert race here> and intimidate some girls. I'll be home for dinner.
^^^i need 2 try that cuzz....defenetly....Originally posted by darth yoda
-Look crazy
-Look too good for them (out of their league)
-Be a race that she is afraid of (I get that alot)
-Be really big
-Say things like "a little rape is fun!"
-Randomly shout things out like, "I ain't going back!"
Have fun