She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
if this happens too often, it's not good...you should aim to make them comfortable with you...i think comfort is the key.Originally posted by DJnoob
can you guys help make a list of things
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
that's not trueOriginally posted by h2o
just realize that a girl who is truly attracted to you will never approach you...
That is bloody gold.Originally posted by darth yoda
-Be a race that she is afraid of (I get that alot)
I just snorted water out of my nostrils...Originally posted by quest
That is bloody gold.
Mum, today i'm going to <insert race here> and intimidate some girls. I'll be home for dinner.
^^^i need 2 try that cuzz....defenetly....Originally posted by darth yoda
-Look crazy
-Look too good for them (out of their league)
-Be a race that she is afraid of (I get that alot)
-Be really big
-Say things like "a little rape is fun!"
-Randomly shout things out like, "I ain't going back!"
Have fun