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[Groovy]

But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?

Well, it obviously it.

You should forget about this guy.

 

[oneboy21]

I mean type as far as looks.
There are two things here, are you not happy with him because of his looks or because he is not emotionally satisfying you. or you are another women who needs more attention just like others said here.

If you are not happy with his looks and consider your self you can get an another better looking guy...you are never going to be happy with a man!

 

[BlackMack177]

The trolls are coming out of the woodwork I see

This has got to be the dumbest thing I've ever heard. You get asked out by a guy. You tell him you're taken. He persists, but you turn him down. But now you want to back track and give him you number so you can be 'friends' and nothing more?/

how stupid do you think we as guys are? Give any random guy your number and he is going to assume it's more than just 'friends'.

I assure you that when you give him your number he is gonna be hitting that ass by the end of the week. Then you two will be really close friends.

You don't want to be friends with this guy. You like him and want him. Just be real and accept that fact and then act accordingly. But i advise breaking it off with your man first if you really don't trust him enough to have the need for a back up plan

 

[DonGorgon]

Hey guys I'm new. I'm a female and I came across this forum cause I was searching google w/ a question I had. So maybe you can help me out. I go to the gym and this guy asked me out. I have a bf, I told him that, but he said we can be friends...etc, the usual. So since then, like last week, I saw him a few times and we said hi. But, I think I wanna give him my number now not to pursue anything just to kinda have it. So number 1, is this wrong? And number 2 what should I say since I basically turned him down, not mean...I said we can be gym friends .

^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"

 

[oneboy21]

^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"

I think you are absolutely right :rockon:

 

[Die Hard]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jwv0z5XtUNE

 

[RosieT]

Well

 

[RosieT]

Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.

^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"

That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.

And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.

But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?

 

[jammy1257]

Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.

That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.

And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.

But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?

She's a ***** and she only wants to use me for my attention and money, that's what I'd think.

 

[Groovy]

But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?

I would say "I don't want your ****ing number".

 

[Atom Smasher]

Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.

That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.

And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.

But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?

Observe, gentlemen. No concept of simple right and wrong, no concept of personal integrity, character, or accountability. No concept of avoiding potentially dangerous situations (because her desire is to flirt with those situations in order to see (feel) if anything "just happens").

Meet modern-day woman, the woman that we are forced to deal with today. She will do whatever she "feels" at the moment, and reverse-rationalize later. This AW illustrates the concept perfectly, yes?

 

[jammy1257]

Observe, gentlemen. No concept of simple right and wrong, no concept of personal integrity, character, or accountability. No concept of avoiding potentially dangerous situations (because her desire is to flirt with those situations in order to see (feel) if anything "just happens").

Meet modern-day woman, the woman that we are forced to deal with today. She will do whatever she "feels" at the moment, and reverse-rationalize later. This AT illustrates the concept perfectly, yes?

That is so true, I can recall infinitely many times when a woman has said, I'll do what I "feel" like doing.

 

[Konada]

Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.




That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.

And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.

But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?

I would take the number, and trash it. Anyone who is willing to cheat in a relationship will do the same to me someday.

Do not fall into this trap guys, it just shows how manipulative women are these days.

 

[Groovy]

I will kindly disagree with you guys on this one... Of course girls will cheat on you if you don't provide enough. What do you expect? What's the big deal? It doesn't mean they don't like or care for you. It just means you aren't good enough. SOME "modern day" girls are messed up. But the others we got to put in their place. I am a stubborn guy, I will try a thousand times and only then I am willing to quit. Not unlike some guys that give up because the girl is willing to dump a guy who isn't capable of satisfying her. She won't do the same for you if you got "it". Unless I am missing something, that is what it seems like to me.

 

[cstrife32]

Chances are that if you're already looking at someone to cheer you up in case your bf breaks up with you (aka rebound), you will eventually break up with him over something one way or another so why not just minimize the time investment and break up with him now? You know, instead of innocently claiming that you just wanna be friends with this guy, hang out with him one day then let your emotions get the best of you and you end up cheating. It's obvious you don't really care too much about your boyfriend because you don't respect him enough to realize that having a rebound in place already means that the relationship is going to fail, regardless. I bet if you cheat on your boyfriend you won't even feel bad because "he wasn't keeping you happy" so that justifies cheating on him somehow...just be civil and decent and break up with the man before you go **** someone else, at least. Jeez, whatever happened to common courtesy...what are people teaching their children nowadays?

Then again, I'm preaching to someone who doesn't really care about my logic and just wants to find the one guy on So Suave who agrees with her so she can go justify her actions. Also, she's probably not going to answer my direct question with a direct answer but will instead deflect it and provide some vague indirect answer or ignore me completely.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I mean type as far as looks.

Well I mean I'm not totally satisfied because he's very closed emotionally, he's gotten much better but still some type of wall.

But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?

You'll do something.

 

[Scars]

"Well I mean I'm not totally satisfied because he's very closed emotionally, he's gotten much better but still some type of wall."

Look, she's already rationalizing excuses to dump her boyfriend.

 

[Konada]

I will kindly disagree with you guys on this one... Of course girls will cheat on you if you don't provide enough. What do you expect? What's the big deal? It doesn't mean they don't like or care for you. It just means you aren't good enough. SOME "modern day" girls are messed up. But the others we got to put in their place. I am a stubborn guy, I will try a thousand times and only then I am willing to quit. Not unlike some guys that give up because the girl is willing to dump a guy who isn't capable of satisfying her. She won't do the same for you if you got "it". Unless I am missing something, that is what it seems like to me.

If she was already intending to dump her boyfriend she wouldn't have rejected the guy by saying 'I have a boyfriend.' Now she's so hard up for that guy. It seems like backwards rationalization to me, 'Hmm, this guy looks cool and I want to probably F him eventually, I must think of excuses to dump my BF.'

Sure the boyfriend is not good enough, but at least he deserves the decency to be broken up wih before she sleeps with the other day. Sleeping with others in a LTR where rules are laid down = cheating. No person, guy or girl, deserves to be screwed over like that.