Well, it obviously it.RosieT said:But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?
You should forget about this guy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Well, it obviously it.RosieT said:But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"RosieT said:Hey guys I'm new. I'm a female and I came across this forum cause I was searching google w/ a question I had. So maybe you can help me out. I go to the gym and this guy asked me out. I have a bf, I told him that, but he said we can be friends...etc, the usual. So since then, like last week, I saw him a few times and we said hi. But, I think I wanna give him my number now not to pursue anything just to kinda have it. So number 1, is this wrong? And number 2 what should I say since I basically turned him down, not mean...I said we can be gym friends.
I think you are absolutely right :rockon:DonGorgon said:^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DonGorgon said:^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"
She's a ***** and she only wants to use me for my attention and money, that's what I'd think.RosieT said:Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.
That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.
And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.
But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
I would say "I don't want your ****ing number".RosieT said:But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Observe, gentlemen. No concept of simple right and wrong, no concept of personal integrity, character, or accountability. No concept of avoiding potentially dangerous situations (because her desire is to flirt with those situations in order to see (feel) if anything "just happens").RosieT said:Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.
That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.
And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.
But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
That is so true, I can recall infinitely many times when a woman has said, I'll do what I "feel" like doing.Atom Smasher said:Observe, gentlemen. No concept of simple right and wrong, no concept of personal integrity, character, or accountability. No concept of avoiding potentially dangerous situations (because her desire is to flirt with those situations in order to see (feel) if anything "just happens").
Meet modern-day woman, the woman that we are forced to deal with today. She will do whatever she "feels" at the moment, and reverse-rationalize later. This AT illustrates the concept perfectly, yes?
I would take the number, and trash it. Anyone who is willing to cheat in a relationship will do the same to me someday.RosieT said:Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.
That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.
And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.
But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You'll do something.RosieT said:I mean type as far as looks.
Well I mean I'm not totally satisfied because he's very closed emotionally, he's gotten much better but still some type of wall.
But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?
Groovy said:I will kindly disagree with you guys on this one... Of course girls will cheat on you if you don't provide enough. What do you expect? What's the big deal? It doesn't mean they don't like or care for you. It just means you aren't good enough. SOME "modern day" girls are messed up. But the others we got to put in their place. I am a stubborn guy, I will try a thousand times and only then I am willing to quit. Not unlike some guys that give up because the girl is willing to dump a guy who isn't capable of satisfying her. She won't do the same for you if you got "it". Unless I am missing something, that is what it seems like to me.