Well, it obviously it.RosieT said:But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?
You should forget about this guy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Well, it obviously it.RosieT said:But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"RosieT said:Hey guys I'm new. I'm a female and I came across this forum cause I was searching google w/ a question I had. So maybe you can help me out. I go to the gym and this guy asked me out. I have a bf, I told him that, but he said we can be friends...etc, the usual. So since then, like last week, I saw him a few times and we said hi. But, I think I wanna give him my number now not to pursue anything just to kinda have it. So number 1, is this wrong? And number 2 what should I say since I basically turned him down, not mean...I said we can be gym friends.
I think you are absolutely right :rockon:DonGorgon said:^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DonGorgon said:^^^translation "im bored with my man i think the gym guy is cute and i want him to chase me and i might just F him eventually"
She's a ***** and she only wants to use me for my attention and money, that's what I'd think.RosieT said:Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.
That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.
And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.
But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
I would say "I don't want your ****ing number".RosieT said:But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Observe, gentlemen. No concept of simple right and wrong, no concept of personal integrity, character, or accountability. No concept of avoiding potentially dangerous situations (because her desire is to flirt with those situations in order to see (feel) if anything "just happens").RosieT said:Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.
That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.
And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.
But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
That is so true, I can recall infinitely many times when a woman has said, I'll do what I "feel" like doing.Atom Smasher said:Observe, gentlemen. No concept of simple right and wrong, no concept of personal integrity, character, or accountability. No concept of avoiding potentially dangerous situations (because her desire is to flirt with those situations in order to see (feel) if anything "just happens").
Meet modern-day woman, the woman that we are forced to deal with today. She will do whatever she "feels" at the moment, and reverse-rationalize later. This AT illustrates the concept perfectly, yes?
I would take the number, and trash it. Anyone who is willing to cheat in a relationship will do the same to me someday.RosieT said:Well, he can assume what he wants doesn't mean it will happen.
That is true, but like I said doesn't mean I would cheat. I've been friends with guys who wanna f*** me or date me or whatever and I knew it and they made it clear, but we just stayed friends and nothing ever happened cause I choose for it not to.
And everyones making this seem so appalling, I guess you guys must chop up girls who do cheat and keep em in the freezer. I'm sure 90% have done way worse, but thats just the guy/ girl double standard as usual.
But, again, this isn't my question. My question is- if a girl did this to you what would you think or do?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You'll do something.RosieT said:I mean type as far as looks.
Well I mean I'm not totally satisfied because he's very closed emotionally, he's gotten much better but still some type of wall.
But why can't the guy just be my friend I'm not saying I will do anything, is it really so wrong?
Groovy said:I will kindly disagree with you guys on this one... Of course girls will cheat on you if you don't provide enough. What do you expect? What's the big deal? It doesn't mean they don't like or care for you. It just means you aren't good enough. SOME "modern day" girls are messed up. But the others we got to put in their place. I am a stubborn guy, I will try a thousand times and only then I am willing to quit. Not unlike some guys that give up because the girl is willing to dump a guy who isn't capable of satisfying her. She won't do the same for you if you got "it". Unless I am missing something, that is what it seems like to me.