"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hit me with your 2014 To-Do List!

Dan08

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2014 is fast approaching and I want you guys to tell me what is the bare minimum you want to get out of the year. I regularly write myself lists of things I want now, in the future etc and review.
I aim to bring this thread back up in a year's time, so people you'll be accountable!

So here's my 2014 to-do list so far:

1. Take up a martial art. Akidio.
2. Consistent gym sessions. Pack on the muscle.
3. Look into Salsa, find a potential partner.
4. Make/Save enough money to go to Ibiza and/or Tomorrowland
5. Dress better. Buy more shirts/shoes and implement
6. Complete my second year of University with a 1st.
7. Take up Wall Climbing
8. Setup more sound gigs at university
9. Start DJing at least once a week
10. Make more friends/be more social/get more hobbies in my life.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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38degrees

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Hi

New too the board

1. DJ bootcamp (starting tomorrow)
2. Build my dream career (set goals, and get my ass in gear)
3. Boxing lessons (looking into it)
4. Salsa lessons (looking into it)
5. Rock climbing (outdoor and indoor) (looking into it)
6. Better wardrobe (I started doing this a few days ago)


I am sure there is more that I am missing. I made a few changes last year, and would like to keep that ball rolling into the new year, cheers :)
 

Chamber36

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1. Hit the gym because working out like hannibal for king is heavy on the joints.
2. Get a license.
3. Go to school, learn to read.
4. Find more *****es.
5. Do a martial art (Tai chi)
6. Maybe do something like salsa
7. Take it easy
 

skinnyguy

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1. Get ripped
2. Make a ton of money
3. Get to the point in which I'm not thinking about women but they are thinking about me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NDGUY88

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1. Pass CFA Level 1
2. Create Price/Variance analysis model
3. End dry spell- now over a year.:down:
4. Bench over 300 (now at 270 max), squat over 400 (now at 320 max)
 

Albatross953

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My 2014 to do list...

Ann
Barb
Julie..again
Holly..some more
Sophie..if she breaks NC first
Another six women I haven't met yet

Questions?
 

mustfirstregister

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My 2013 resolution was to have two Fbuddies. I couldn't make it. But I fked two girls. so, I will say 80% resolution completed.

For 2014 I want 3 consistent FBs.
 

Tomo

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only 2 things -

-to not be a push over
-to not pedalize woman

If I can sort those out, everything else will follow.
 

Mr Wright

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2014

- Finish Uni with a degree
- Put on about 4.5kg in muscle
- Get a job to save up to go travelling in 2015
- Get a brand new rotation of 3-4 girls and have ONS in between
- Get a new social circle(preferably with girls in it)
- Continue writing my book
- Continue to remove the bad people from my life


All perfectly achievable and things I am already striving towards.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MillionBillionaire

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-$$$$$$$$
- Hit 170 pounds (160 now)
- Meet lots of new people
- 3 hot plates to spin
- $$$$$$$$
- Salsa?
 

Purefilth

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Keep on keeping on.


I don't see why anyone should wait for the new year to start something new. It's just a way to put off doing something you could have Stillrted months ago.

Still, better to have a plan than to plan nothing I suppose.
 

Atom Smasher

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1) Remove myself from the technical end of my main business
2) Develop my secondary business
3) Ramp up my music career (sidelined from a fractured spine)
4) More consistent eating plan, more natural
5) Buy a new house
6) More consistent plate spinning
7) Keep my currently good workout momentum up
8) Find a new sport that won't aggravate my back
 

Groverz

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1) Get back to being happy by myself
2) Keep going to the gym
3) Keep rock climbing with my friend
4) More salsa lessons
5) Not rely on anyone for my happiness
6) Maybe start to save for a 3rd house
7) Do what ever the hell I want to do
8) No more standing on the side lines!


Side note it's cool to see others getting into Salsa, when I was at a club the other day the dance floor was ALL latin girls, about 30 of them and 1 guy. All the guys were standing there watching so in I went. I don't care if I am not good I am out there having fun while others stand on the side lines.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheGambino

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2014

1. Cut to less then 15 bodyfat %
2. Spent €1000 on a stylish wardrobe
3. Save money for a trip to Brazil and Sweden. Love the women over these 2 countries. I got more with the latinas so def going for Brazil first.
4. Complete my Minor
5. BE POSITIVE with everything I do
 

Odisseo

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1) skydiving certificate
2) network outside of my company
3) stop depending socially on AFC friends to forget the AFC part of me
4) take up kickboxing and swim more

I think women shouldn't be on these lists if it's true what they say here that women are not the goal and they will come to you once you develop to your full potential
 

rushing dude 123

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hmmm good post! very well I am in.

2014

1. Run and swim 2 times a week at least
2. Be 8% body fat (going have to make sure I stay strong at christmas)
3. Increase my socialising & leadership skills further more
4. Get back into martial arts and pick 2 to train wrestling/boxing/BJJ/Muay thai
5. Be really good at one of the following Salsa/Tango/Samba
6. Start my own Business
7. learn Spanish to a decent level (Probs the hardest one ughh)
8. Get in touch with my good friends I have not contacted lately and ditch bad friends
9. Most importantly have FUN!!!!
 

TheCWord

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1. Find a woman to attach my self-worth to
2. Text her every five minutes
3. Give up on my own dreams to focus on girl
4. Ask SoSuave if girl posting craigslist casual encounters ad seeking "big black c*ck" is a red flag
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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