"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hit me with your 2014 To-Do List!

Dan08

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2014 is fast approaching and I want you guys to tell me what is the bare minimum you want to get out of the year. I regularly write myself lists of things I want now, in the future etc and review.
I aim to bring this thread back up in a year's time, so people you'll be accountable!

So here's my 2014 to-do list so far:

1. Take up a martial art. Akidio.
2. Consistent gym sessions. Pack on the muscle.
3. Look into Salsa, find a potential partner.
4. Make/Save enough money to go to Ibiza and/or Tomorrowland
5. Dress better. Buy more shirts/shoes and implement
6. Complete my second year of University with a 1st.
7. Take up Wall Climbing
8. Setup more sound gigs at university
9. Start DJing at least once a week
10. Make more friends/be more social/get more hobbies in my life.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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38degrees

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Hi

New too the board

1. DJ bootcamp (starting tomorrow)
2. Build my dream career (set goals, and get my ass in gear)
3. Boxing lessons (looking into it)
4. Salsa lessons (looking into it)
5. Rock climbing (outdoor and indoor) (looking into it)
6. Better wardrobe (I started doing this a few days ago)


I am sure there is more that I am missing. I made a few changes last year, and would like to keep that ball rolling into the new year, cheers :)
 

Chamber36

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1. Hit the gym because working out like hannibal for king is heavy on the joints.
2. Get a license.
3. Go to school, learn to read.
4. Find more *****es.
5. Do a martial art (Tai chi)
6. Maybe do something like salsa
7. Take it easy
 

skinnyguy

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1. Get ripped
2. Make a ton of money
3. Get to the point in which I'm not thinking about women but they are thinking about me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NDGUY88

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1. Pass CFA Level 1
2. Create Price/Variance analysis model
3. End dry spell- now over a year.:down:
4. Bench over 300 (now at 270 max), squat over 400 (now at 320 max)
 

Albatross953

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My 2014 to do list...

Ann
Barb
Julie..again
Holly..some more
Sophie..if she breaks NC first
Another six women I haven't met yet

Questions?
 

mustfirstregister

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My 2013 resolution was to have two Fbuddies. I couldn't make it. But I fked two girls. so, I will say 80% resolution completed.

For 2014 I want 3 consistent FBs.
 

Tomo

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only 2 things -

-to not be a push over
-to not pedalize woman

If I can sort those out, everything else will follow.
 

Mr Wright

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2014

- Finish Uni with a degree
- Put on about 4.5kg in muscle
- Get a job to save up to go travelling in 2015
- Get a brand new rotation of 3-4 girls and have ONS in between
- Get a new social circle(preferably with girls in it)
- Continue writing my book
- Continue to remove the bad people from my life


All perfectly achievable and things I am already striving towards.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MillionBillionaire

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-$$$$$$$$
- Hit 170 pounds (160 now)
- Meet lots of new people
- 3 hot plates to spin
- $$$$$$$$
- Salsa?
 

Purefilth

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Keep on keeping on.


I don't see why anyone should wait for the new year to start something new. It's just a way to put off doing something you could have Stillrted months ago.

Still, better to have a plan than to plan nothing I suppose.
 

Atom Smasher

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1) Remove myself from the technical end of my main business
2) Develop my secondary business
3) Ramp up my music career (sidelined from a fractured spine)
4) More consistent eating plan, more natural
5) Buy a new house
6) More consistent plate spinning
7) Keep my currently good workout momentum up
8) Find a new sport that won't aggravate my back
 

Groverz

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1) Get back to being happy by myself
2) Keep going to the gym
3) Keep rock climbing with my friend
4) More salsa lessons
5) Not rely on anyone for my happiness
6) Maybe start to save for a 3rd house
7) Do what ever the hell I want to do
8) No more standing on the side lines!


Side note it's cool to see others getting into Salsa, when I was at a club the other day the dance floor was ALL latin girls, about 30 of them and 1 guy. All the guys were standing there watching so in I went. I don't care if I am not good I am out there having fun while others stand on the side lines.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheGambino

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2014

1. Cut to less then 15 bodyfat %
2. Spent €1000 on a stylish wardrobe
3. Save money for a trip to Brazil and Sweden. Love the women over these 2 countries. I got more with the latinas so def going for Brazil first.
4. Complete my Minor
5. BE POSITIVE with everything I do
 

Odisseo

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1) skydiving certificate
2) network outside of my company
3) stop depending socially on AFC friends to forget the AFC part of me
4) take up kickboxing and swim more

I think women shouldn't be on these lists if it's true what they say here that women are not the goal and they will come to you once you develop to your full potential
 

rushing dude 123

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hmmm good post! very well I am in.

2014

1. Run and swim 2 times a week at least
2. Be 8% body fat (going have to make sure I stay strong at christmas)
3. Increase my socialising & leadership skills further more
4. Get back into martial arts and pick 2 to train wrestling/boxing/BJJ/Muay thai
5. Be really good at one of the following Salsa/Tango/Samba
6. Start my own Business
7. learn Spanish to a decent level (Probs the hardest one ughh)
8. Get in touch with my good friends I have not contacted lately and ditch bad friends
9. Most importantly have FUN!!!!
 

TheCWord

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1. Find a woman to attach my self-worth to
2. Text her every five minutes
3. Give up on my own dreams to focus on girl
4. Ask SoSuave if girl posting craigslist casual encounters ad seeking "big black c*ck" is a red flag
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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