Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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hey, could you guys help me out with something?

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right, I'm starting to improve myself, already joined a rugby team which has boosted my social circle and my confidence. But there's one thing I been pondering on for a while now.

I want to stop talking so much and be a cooler person as part of my self improvement programme. Could someone give me advice tips or their opinions on this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's your definition of "cool?"
 
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I'm going to make a guess. Alpha male cool. Cool like coach, or cop.


Once you learn to observe the hidden language, you will understand it, and adjust things you say - both verbally and otherwise - to be dominant. Get rid of all the stuff that makes you beta male.


Have a look at this.
 
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I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.
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But why do people want to be around him, why do they feel that he's safe? You're going to remain confused until you can understand the "why's."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.
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Is it as simple as just playing sports and looking good? Is that all that you'll need to do?
 
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It's just the aura they have...

I've tried to unlock the "why" too...unsuccessfully, as of now.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've read them before, they have nothing to do with popularity and attracting alot of people, men and women, to you and make people want to be around you more.
 
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I am confident in myself, but doesn't make people want to be around me.
 
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Are you saying that people DONT want to be around you? Or are you saying you want MORE people to hang around you?

What is your personality like? Do you make eye contact with everyone? What's your wardrobe like? Do you play any sports?

If you want to be cool then make some damn friends and make sure to show up to all the parties..........I think thats the kinda "cool" you're looking for.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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it is. but a few things about me, lots of people hang around me, but I'm not popular like I want to be. I want more people to hang around with me. I make eye contact with most people. I have a decent wardrobe, with sport joggers and various coloured t shirts, jeans, hoody, jumper etc. I play basketball, football and rugby, and im in a rugby team
 
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and post the conversation here so that others that may have this same problem may learn something
 
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thanks to wolf who has given me the tips I need to progress and in my self improvement. Thanks to everyone who contributed.
 
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So are we now going to see a carbon copy of Wolf?
 
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