"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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hey, could you guys help me out with something?

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right, I'm starting to improve myself, already joined a rugby team which has boosted my social circle and my confidence. But there's one thing I been pondering on for a while now.

I want to stop talking so much and be a cooler person as part of my self improvement programme. Could someone give me advice tips or their opinions on this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's your definition of "cool?"
 
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I'm going to make a guess. Alpha male cool. Cool like coach, or cop.


Once you learn to observe the hidden language, you will understand it, and adjust things you say - both verbally and otherwise - to be dominant. Get rid of all the stuff that makes you beta male.


Have a look at this.
 
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I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.
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But why do people want to be around him, why do they feel that he's safe? You're going to remain confused until you can understand the "why's."
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.
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Is it as simple as just playing sports and looking good? Is that all that you'll need to do?
 
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It's just the aura they have...

I've tried to unlock the "why" too...unsuccessfully, as of now.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've read them before, they have nothing to do with popularity and attracting alot of people, men and women, to you and make people want to be around you more.
 
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I am confident in myself, but doesn't make people want to be around me.
 
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Are you saying that people DONT want to be around you? Or are you saying you want MORE people to hang around you?

What is your personality like? Do you make eye contact with everyone? What's your wardrobe like? Do you play any sports?

If you want to be cool then make some damn friends and make sure to show up to all the parties..........I think thats the kinda "cool" you're looking for.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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it is. but a few things about me, lots of people hang around me, but I'm not popular like I want to be. I want more people to hang around with me. I make eye contact with most people. I have a decent wardrobe, with sport joggers and various coloured t shirts, jeans, hoody, jumper etc. I play basketball, football and rugby, and im in a rugby team
 
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and post the conversation here so that others that may have this same problem may learn something
 
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thanks to wolf who has given me the tips I need to progress and in my self improvement. Thanks to everyone who contributed.
 
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So are we now going to see a carbon copy of Wolf?
 
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