hey, could you guys help me out with something?

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

right, I'm starting to improve myself, already joined a rugby team which has boosted my social circle and my confidence. But there's one thing I been pondering on for a while now.

I want to stop talking so much and be a cooler person as part of my self improvement programme. Could someone give me advice tips or their opinions on this?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What's your definition of "cool?"

 

[Stuntmann]

I'm going to make a guess. Alpha male cool. Cool like coach, or cop.


Once you learn to observe the hidden language, you will understand it, and adjust things you say - both verbally and otherwise - to be dominant. Get rid of all the stuff that makes you beta male.


Have a look at this.

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.

But why do people want to be around him, why do they feel that he's safe? You're going to remain confused until you can understand the "why's."

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.

 

[jesusrules]

If you think you talk to much then stop talking so much and just listen. its as easy as that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.

Is it as simple as just playing sports and looking good? Is that all that you'll need to do?

 

[sandman6991]

It's just the aura they have...

I've tried to unlock the "why" too...unsuccessfully, as of now.

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

can anyone anyone helpme ?

 

[ligyron]

can anyone anyone helpme ?

These posts may help:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=17008

Certainly opened my eyes a bit

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

I've read them before, they have nothing to do with popularity and attracting alot of people, men and women, to you and make people want to be around you more.

 

[frivolousz21]

you cool when you have confidence in yourself

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

I am confident in myself, but doesn't make people want to be around me.

 

[kingwilliam]

Are you saying that people DONT want to be around you? Or are you saying you want MORE people to hang around you?

What is your personality like? Do you make eye contact with everyone? What's your wardrobe like? Do you play any sports?

If you want to be cool then make some damn friends and make sure to show up to all the parties..........I think thats the kinda "cool" you're looking for.

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

it is. but a few things about me, lots of people hang around me, but I'm not popular like I want to be. I want more people to hang around with me. I make eye contact with most people. I have a decent wardrobe, with sport joggers and various coloured t shirts, jeans, hoody, jumper etc. I play basketball, football and rugby, and im in a rugby team

 

[ligyron]

and post the conversation here so that others that may have this same problem may learn something

 

[BenPW-DJNewbie]

thanks to wolf who has given me the tips I need to progress and in my self improvement. Thanks to everyone who contributed.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So are we now going to see a carbon copy of Wolf?