"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hey, could you guys help me out with something?

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right, I'm starting to improve myself, already joined a rugby team which has boosted my social circle and my confidence. But there's one thing I been pondering on for a while now.

I want to stop talking so much and be a cooler person as part of my self improvement programme. Could someone give me advice tips or their opinions on this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What's your definition of "cool?"
 
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I'm going to make a guess. Alpha male cool. Cool like coach, or cop.


Once you learn to observe the hidden language, you will understand it, and adjust things you say - both verbally and otherwise - to be dominant. Get rid of all the stuff that makes you beta male.


Have a look at this.
 
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I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
I mean cool as in all the kids in my school look at me and think 'he's safe as **** man. wanna be like him and wanna be around him all the time' Like everyone likes me and wants to talk to me and all that stuff. Im 14 and in senior school btw.
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But why do people want to be around him, why do they feel that he's safe? You're going to remain confused until you can understand the "why's."
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.
 
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BenPW-DJNewbie said:
because he/they are are cool, and play sports, and when they are with him, they look good too.
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Is it as simple as just playing sports and looking good? Is that all that you'll need to do?
 
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It's just the aura they have...

I've tried to unlock the "why" too...unsuccessfully, as of now.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've read them before, they have nothing to do with popularity and attracting alot of people, men and women, to you and make people want to be around you more.
 
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I am confident in myself, but doesn't make people want to be around me.
 
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Are you saying that people DONT want to be around you? Or are you saying you want MORE people to hang around you?

What is your personality like? Do you make eye contact with everyone? What's your wardrobe like? Do you play any sports?

If you want to be cool then make some damn friends and make sure to show up to all the parties..........I think thats the kinda "cool" you're looking for.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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it is. but a few things about me, lots of people hang around me, but I'm not popular like I want to be. I want more people to hang around with me. I make eye contact with most people. I have a decent wardrobe, with sport joggers and various coloured t shirts, jeans, hoody, jumper etc. I play basketball, football and rugby, and im in a rugby team
 
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and post the conversation here so that others that may have this same problem may learn something
 
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thanks to wolf who has given me the tips I need to progress and in my self improvement. Thanks to everyone who contributed.
 
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So are we now going to see a carbon copy of Wolf?
 
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