You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can't go to the gym because I wake up at 5 and come back at 7 in the evening and I'm too tired, if you read my last post from some time ago I'll explain what I'm going through in this period, unfortunately it's like this, I can't cheer myself up, i am too thoughtful, sad, i will try to start meditation again
Sounds like you are suffering from burnout from repeated stressors and not enough down time to be able to unwind and relax. I'm guessing you don't sleep enough either.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yes, perhaps work is wearing me down, I work in the principality of Monaco and it allows me to earn double what you would earn in my city, but it is 30 km from my home, plus it is physically tiring work, perhaps this is it
I know but I get a great salary, and I really need to make a lot of money right now
I know it's different in Europe but it's nothing to drive 60-80 km in the US between work and home. I'd say 30km is probably better than 65 percent of ppl do here
Yes, but in fact I'm not complaining, but obviously these are tiring days, and my discomfort could come from tiredness
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.