"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Help....now!
- Thread starter GADavid
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BeDJ
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And thus, you already did.GADavid said:
After going through recent posts, I want to give these AFCs advice they want to hear and have them learn from it.
Greasy Pig
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She dumped you, so it's up to her to try to make things right....if she wants to.
If she doesn't, well that's her loss and you just carry on with your life.
Work should be your number 1 priority now, don't try to initiate anything with her and if she speaks to you, keep it courteous and professional.
It's tough, I know, I've been there. But you have to be strong and show this bytch that you don't give a fvck.
Mike32ct
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Continue working unphased by it. Be polite and professional but only talk to her if its work related.
After she gets it out of her system, she might or might not talk to you. It's beyond your control.
Her not talking to you or being short with you is silly game of chicken. Don't back down and TRY to befriend her. That's rewarding bad behavior.
If she finally starts being friendly to you, you can be a bit more friendly back but you must keep it professional.
Don't say a WORD about this to other coworkers eg "What's up with Kate? Is she mad at me?" That would get back to her and let her know she's affecting you with her moods.
Mike32ct
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
BeDJ
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It seems to me that she may put you on the friendzone. This is your last shot, you need some aggressive Kino. Slapping her in the ass at the workplace goes in line with the I Don't Give a F*ck (about my life) Alpha attitude.
What has this girl done for you to be so scared of her? The only persons anyone should be scared of are the police and creditors who may call loans.GADavid said:
It's just a girl, you giving her so much value without getting money in return is dangerous. You are allowing her to be short with you, you are allowing her to make fun of you. Do you think she would act this way to her boss? Step your game up bro.
I'm done with it. I'm the most persistent guy in the world, but that is a situation nobody could win.
The Gambler
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Might be too late, but if she says anything in the future.... You should just have a good-natured chuckle with her and laugh at yourself. The ultimate in confidence is the ability to do that. You're a new man now, and feel free to laugh at the "old you" that you left behind.GADavid said: