"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Help....now!
- Thread starter GADavid
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BeDJ
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And thus, you already did.GADavid said:
After going through recent posts, I want to give these AFCs advice they want to hear and have them learn from it.
Greasy Pig
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She dumped you, so it's up to her to try to make things right....if she wants to.
If she doesn't, well that's her loss and you just carry on with your life.
Work should be your number 1 priority now, don't try to initiate anything with her and if she speaks to you, keep it courteous and professional.
It's tough, I know, I've been there. But you have to be strong and show this bytch that you don't give a fvck.
Mike32ct
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Continue working unphased by it. Be polite and professional but only talk to her if its work related.
After she gets it out of her system, she might or might not talk to you. It's beyond your control.
Her not talking to you or being short with you is silly game of chicken. Don't back down and TRY to befriend her. That's rewarding bad behavior.
If she finally starts being friendly to you, you can be a bit more friendly back but you must keep it professional.
Don't say a WORD about this to other coworkers eg "What's up with Kate? Is she mad at me?" That would get back to her and let her know she's affecting you with her moods.
Mike32ct
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
BeDJ
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It seems to me that she may put you on the friendzone. This is your last shot, you need some aggressive Kino. Slapping her in the ass at the workplace goes in line with the I Don't Give a F*ck (about my life) Alpha attitude.
What has this girl done for you to be so scared of her? The only persons anyone should be scared of are the police and creditors who may call loans.GADavid said:
It's just a girl, you giving her so much value without getting money in return is dangerous. You are allowing her to be short with you, you are allowing her to make fun of you. Do you think she would act this way to her boss? Step your game up bro.
I'm done with it. I'm the most persistent guy in the world, but that is a situation nobody could win.
The Gambler
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Might be too late, but if she says anything in the future.... You should just have a good-natured chuckle with her and laugh at yourself. The ultimate in confidence is the ability to do that. You're a new man now, and feel free to laugh at the "old you" that you left behind.GADavid said: