"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Help....now!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
BeDJ
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And thus, you already did.GADavid said:
After going through recent posts, I want to give these AFCs advice they want to hear and have them learn from it.
Greasy Pig
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She dumped you, so it's up to her to try to make things right....if she wants to.
If she doesn't, well that's her loss and you just carry on with your life.
Work should be your number 1 priority now, don't try to initiate anything with her and if she speaks to you, keep it courteous and professional.
It's tough, I know, I've been there. But you have to be strong and show this bytch that you don't give a fvck.
Mike32ct
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Continue working unphased by it. Be polite and professional but only talk to her if its work related.
After she gets it out of her system, she might or might not talk to you. It's beyond your control.
Her not talking to you or being short with you is silly game of chicken. Don't back down and TRY to befriend her. That's rewarding bad behavior.
If she finally starts being friendly to you, you can be a bit more friendly back but you must keep it professional.
Don't say a WORD about this to other coworkers eg "What's up with Kate? Is she mad at me?" That would get back to her and let her know she's affecting you with her moods.
Mike32ct
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BeDJ
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It seems to me that she may put you on the friendzone. This is your last shot, you need some aggressive Kino. Slapping her in the ass at the workplace goes in line with the I Don't Give a F*ck (about my life) Alpha attitude.
What has this girl done for you to be so scared of her? The only persons anyone should be scared of are the police and creditors who may call loans.GADavid said:
It's just a girl, you giving her so much value without getting money in return is dangerous. You are allowing her to be short with you, you are allowing her to make fun of you. Do you think she would act this way to her boss? Step your game up bro.
I'm done with it. I'm the most persistent guy in the world, but that is a situation nobody could win.
The Gambler
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Might be too late, but if she says anything in the future.... You should just have a good-natured chuckle with her and laugh at yourself. The ultimate in confidence is the ability to do that. You're a new man now, and feel free to laugh at the "old you" that you left behind.GADavid said: