I am 22 year old having a good time so far at my workplace. I got drunk last week and shared things about girls I dated at work to my team members. This morning I got a text from a girl who is still working with me who I’ve been avoiding (no contact ) because she being very clingy on the first date and I did joke this with my team. The text is “we need to talk you are spreading rumours about me”. I did not respond to it ,I would usually avoid the text but since she works with me I don’t want Her to make a scene. What would be the next thing to do. Call text or ask her to meet??
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Help needed!! Urgent
- Thread starter rayv12
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KingofPuss
Master Don Juan
Agreed and disagreed. Tell her you were tipsy and forget exactly what you said. Apologize, DONT SAY SORRY. Say somthing like "I apologize, that's out of character for me. I don't remember what I said exactly but I do not spread rumors. It will not happen again."
Keep your pen out of company ink.
Thanks! I apologised she understood!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.