"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bro you're an attempted waver dont get it twisted.

I co-sign the beard though, get some facial hair asap. Or at least draw it on with marker pen.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Try getting some diamond earrings! They can really help. I was considered a nerd too but when I got my ears pierced it helped destroy that image. They’re not expensive and it doesn’t hurt.
My worry is looking gay if i do get something like that lol.

Grow out a beard if you can. Bytches love beards.
I can't grow a beard, no matter how long I go without shaving, it grows in patchy.

Personally I’d cut the flat top, but that’s just my personal preference. I feel like people assume you’re a nerd if you have that cut. I’m a waver myself, but if you like your hair long maybe get some curls instead?
I only get this haircut because it looked good when i got it and i have no other ideas in mind
 

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Bro you're an attempted waver dont get it twisted.

I co-sign the beard though, get some facial hair asap. Or at least draw it on with marker pen.
Lol true. To me a waver is anyone going through the process tho
 

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My worry is looking gay if i do get something like that lol.



I can't grow a beard, no matter how long I go without shaving, it grows in patchy.



I only get this haircut because it looked good when i got it and i have no other ideas in mind
Not roasting the haircut just my personal preference. Fade looks good.

I don’t think you would look gay with earrings, look at all the mumble rappers wearing earrings today. It worked for me, several people told me it increased my looks.

Sidenote: Hitting the gym always helps too
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thanks for all your help guys I really appreciate it I'll try and take all this great advice to heart and use it to do the few necessary steps to improve my looks
 

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bro id probably ditch the smile and start having more of a serious/slight smerk

then id pack a bit of muscle on

black shirt white braces you will look bang level off the scale bro
 

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You’re not blessed physically. Had some of my girl acquaintances rate you
Enjoy:
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God damn, hope that's not a common opinion
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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As another member stated, you look too nice.

Sharpen up your body language like a bad boy, a guy who's not going to be messed around with. Goggle and YouTube it.

That blazer looks a bit big on you.

Smile less. Pump your chest out etc.
 

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As another member stated, you look too nice.

Sharpen up your body language like a bad boy, a guy who's not going to be messed around with. Goggle and YouTube it.

That blazer looks a bit big on you.

Smile less. Pump your chest out etc.
I mean, i don't particularly want to look mean or angry all the time, but even if i put that aside because girls like it, it's not particularly congruent with my personality to walk around looking like batman so i dunno really...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I mean, i don't particularly want to look mean or angry all the time, but even if i put that aside because girls like it, it's not particularly congruent with my personality to walk around looking like batman so i dunno really...
Bro you are young, but with all due respect, it's why I always tried to preach a requirement of posting pics on this forum. It allows other members to see who exactly we are "taking advice from".

You are a brother but that won't stop me from going in. These pictures look fvcking awful. That's the bad news. The GOOD news is that you aren't physically fvcked up to the point where you can't fix the problem.

- Workout and get some nice muscle mass on you

- You can be the class clown, but lose the goofiness. You can be funny and all of that shyt, but being a goofball isn't cool and as a grown a.ss man, you can't be running around here like that.

- I need a better clothing style.

- I don't like the hairstyle. I would go shorter.


Start there......next, post a good pic after these updates are made and put it on PhotoFeeler. I can send you my PhotoFeeler results if you want, I scored 91% on Smart, 96% on Trustworthy, and 89% on Attractive with 50 votes. Pay for 50 - 100 votes to get a pretty good precise rating. I find that PhotoFeeler is a good general "feel" of the market.

Another point, until you fix these issues, STOP giving advice on here Bro. This is the problem with this website. Guys who clearly do not have their LOOKS together (like my boy @Urbanyst) preaches, have no business giving other grown a.ss men advice. That's another major flaw of this website, it's that anonymous dudes who have not fixed their shyt are up here "preaching".
 
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I can tell you don't exercise just by your facial aesthetics:

1) Exfoliate. Google exfoliation methods. You'll add one point to your appearance doing this;
2) Diet and exercise. Plenty of info on this forum regarding how to lower bf levels and build muscle. You'll add 2-3 points to your appearance doing this;
3) Style: You have absolutely no awareness of style. Start educating: http://www.seducingwithstyle.com/style-101/top-five-mens-style-forums/

You have potential to be an 8. Start working toward it.
 

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Top to bottom....

Hair, go closer to the scalp and forget the flat top.

Face and body, you could lose 10% body fat to be more defined going on generally. You will also naturally carry yourself better.

Clothes, less preppy more fitted and funky. Don't adhere to a generic style; find your own.

Expression, go natural, no more forced grinning.

At the moment, you're about a general 6/10. Take the advice and you'll be an 8 by Christmas.
 
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At the moment, you're about a general 6/10. Take the advice and you'll be an 8 by Christmas.
Where are you guys seeing a "6" at in those pics? The dude is a solid 3 or 4. If he takes the steps I listed above, THEN he moves to a 6. From there, he can continue to build upon that successful foundation to get to a PEAK of a 7 to 7.5, but being at a 6 to 7 would be sufficient enough for him to pull consistent 6.5 to 7.5 women if he plays the numbers game.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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