Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My worry is looking gay if i do get something like that lol.Try getting some diamond earrings! They can really help. I was considered a nerd too but when I got my ears pierced it helped destroy that image. They’re not expensive and it doesn’t hurt.
I can't grow a beard, no matter how long I go without shaving, it grows in patchy.Grow out a beard if you can. Bytches love beards.
I only get this haircut because it looked good when i got it and i have no other ideas in mindPersonally I’d cut the flat top, but that’s just my personal preference. I feel like people assume you’re a nerd if you have that cut. I’m a waver myself, but if you like your hair long maybe get some curls instead?
Lol true. To me a waver is anyone going through the process thoBro you're an attempted waver dont get it twisted.
I co-sign the beard though, get some facial hair asap. Or at least draw it on with marker pen.
Not roasting the haircut just my personal preference. Fade looks good.My worry is looking gay if i do get something like that lol.
I can't grow a beard, no matter how long I go without shaving, it grows in patchy.
I only get this haircut because it looked good when i got it and i have no other ideas in mind
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why not try Photofeeler?God damn, hope that's not a common opinion
Welp after epicurous' post ignorance is blissWhy not try Photofeeler?
Get rich and get mad.Welp after epicurous' post ignorance is bliss
I mean, i don't particularly want to look mean or angry all the time, but even if i put that aside because girls like it, it's not particularly congruent with my personality to walk around looking like batman so i dunno really...As another member stated, you look too nice.
Sharpen up your body language like a bad boy, a guy who's not going to be messed around with. Goggle and YouTube it.
That blazer looks a bit big on you.
Smile less. Pump your chest out etc.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bro you are young, but with all due respect, it's why I always tried to preach a requirement of posting pics on this forum. It allows other members to see who exactly we are "taking advice from".I mean, i don't particularly want to look mean or angry all the time, but even if i put that aside because girls like it, it's not particularly congruent with my personality to walk around looking like batman so i dunno really...
Where are you guys seeing a "6" at in those pics? The dude is a solid 3 or 4. If he takes the steps I listed above, THEN he moves to a 6. From there, he can continue to build upon that successful foundation to get to a PEAK of a 7 to 7.5, but being at a 6 to 7 would be sufficient enough for him to pull consistent 6.5 to 7.5 women if he plays the numbers game.At the moment, you're about a general 6/10. Take the advice and you'll be an 8 by Christmas.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.