manfromitaly
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Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lolOP's 50 y/o is Italian unfortunately, she may as well be married.
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lolOP's 50 y/o is Italian unfortunately, she may as well be married.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
They approach me online and suddenly start playing hard to get after being compliant at first. In America it's hard to tell who they are and this didn't start happening to me until I moved to my current city in the U.S. It's weird but it goes to show how location is important. I like them, but now I have to ask so I know how to calibrate. It's not a dealbreaker but to me it's a red flag. And online I've read how they push to see how hard the man is willing to work before they them into bed.Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lol
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sucks bro, what do you think her motive was for inviting you over if she wasn't going to give you any openings? If she was on the fence or unsure about you, maybe leave the door open in case she wants to re-connect. If she does, make sure she's down with the program and makes it easy for you, no vagueness.Update on situations and reflections. I ate at her house but nothing happened, despite trying to escalate. It's too late now, I have no more chances to sleep with her, I have to agree with those who say that if a woman wants to have sex with you she will make things easy for you, she doesn't, so I leave it alone and focus on other women.
I think at the moment she doesn't hang out with any other friends and needs some company, she knows I'm attracted to her and rides on it, sadly it doesn't give me a way to escalate because we sat out on the balcony but on 2 separate chairs and she didn't even get too close to me, like last time her mother would have returned home so there was the concern that she would arrive at any moment, the fact remains that I for one don't feel at ease take risks, I don't know how it will end, I think I have to let it go and not think about it too much, time will tellThat sucks bro, what do you think her motive was for inviting you over if she wasn't going to give you any openings? If she was on the fence or unsure about you, maybe leave the door open in case she wants to re-connect. If she does, make sure she's down with the program and makes it easy for you, no vagueness.
.....in France. OP, can you feasibly date the French chicks across the border?You dodged a bullet. You are early 30s, focus on getting a rotation of young, hot, fertile poozy.