"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Help dating older woman

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BillyPilgrim

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Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lol
They approach me online and suddenly start playing hard to get after being compliant at first. In America it's hard to tell who they are and this didn't start happening to me until I moved to my current city in the U.S. It's weird but it goes to show how location is important. I like them, but now I have to ask so I know how to calibrate. It's not a dealbreaker but to me it's a red flag. And online I've read how they push to see how hard the man is willing to work before they them into bed.
 

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Nah Mature Jayne's pushing them up big time. Sophia had the far better rack.
 

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Update on situations and reflections. I ate at her house but nothing happened, despite trying to escalate. It's too late now, I have no more chances to sleep with her, I have to agree with those who say that if a woman wants to have sex with you she will make things easy for you, she doesn't, so I leave it alone and focus on other women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Update on situations and reflections. I ate at her house but nothing happened, despite trying to escalate. It's too late now, I have no more chances to sleep with her, I have to agree with those who say that if a woman wants to have sex with you she will make things easy for you, she doesn't, so I leave it alone and focus on other women.
That sucks bro, what do you think her motive was for inviting you over if she wasn't going to give you any openings? If she was on the fence or unsure about you, maybe leave the door open in case she wants to re-connect. If she does, make sure she's down with the program and makes it easy for you, no vagueness.
 

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That sucks bro, what do you think her motive was for inviting you over if she wasn't going to give you any openings? If she was on the fence or unsure about you, maybe leave the door open in case she wants to re-connect. If she does, make sure she's down with the program and makes it easy for you, no vagueness.
I think at the moment she doesn't hang out with any other friends and needs some company, she knows I'm attracted to her and rides on it, sadly it doesn't give me a way to escalate because we sat out on the balcony but on 2 separate chairs and she didn't even get too close to me, like last time her mother would have returned home so there was the concern that she would arrive at any moment, the fact remains that I for one don't feel at ease take risks, I don't know how it will end, I think I have to let it go and not think about it too much, time will tell
 

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You dodged a bullet. You are early 30s, focus on getting a rotation of young, hot, fertile poozy.
.....in France. OP, can you feasibly date the French chicks across the border?
 
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