manfromitaly
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Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lolOP's 50 y/o is Italian unfortunately, she may as well be married.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lolOP's 50 y/o is Italian unfortunately, she may as well be married.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
They approach me online and suddenly start playing hard to get after being compliant at first. In America it's hard to tell who they are and this didn't start happening to me until I moved to my current city in the U.S. It's weird but it goes to show how location is important. I like them, but now I have to ask so I know how to calibrate. It's not a dealbreaker but to me it's a red flag. And online I've read how they push to see how hard the man is willing to work before they them into bed.Brother, what have Italian women done to you, you hate them lol
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sucks bro, what do you think her motive was for inviting you over if she wasn't going to give you any openings? If she was on the fence or unsure about you, maybe leave the door open in case she wants to re-connect. If she does, make sure she's down with the program and makes it easy for you, no vagueness.Update on situations and reflections. I ate at her house but nothing happened, despite trying to escalate. It's too late now, I have no more chances to sleep with her, I have to agree with those who say that if a woman wants to have sex with you she will make things easy for you, she doesn't, so I leave it alone and focus on other women.
I think at the moment she doesn't hang out with any other friends and needs some company, she knows I'm attracted to her and rides on it, sadly it doesn't give me a way to escalate because we sat out on the balcony but on 2 separate chairs and she didn't even get too close to me, like last time her mother would have returned home so there was the concern that she would arrive at any moment, the fact remains that I for one don't feel at ease take risks, I don't know how it will end, I think I have to let it go and not think about it too much, time will tellThat sucks bro, what do you think her motive was for inviting you over if she wasn't going to give you any openings? If she was on the fence or unsure about you, maybe leave the door open in case she wants to re-connect. If she does, make sure she's down with the program and makes it easy for you, no vagueness.
.....in France. OP, can you feasibly date the French chicks across the border?You dodged a bullet. You are early 30s, focus on getting a rotation of young, hot, fertile poozy.