"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Height
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
Grow. lol.
nah jk, sucks man, i'm noyl 5'6 and i just bagged[and soon fvcked] a 5'8 JUNIOR[i'm a sophmore] so well..it can eb done.
jsut learn your game, play ti right...and know: unless shes only 2 inches taller, you probably won't get anywhere.
msot girls want Tall-Dark-Handsome.
For me its Short-Blonde-Handsome[ok, i think i am
] lol. I sitll get girls.Most girls will stop growing by sophmore year, u won't
jonny football hero
Master Don Juan
Grandmaster Sexay
Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The TallOne
Don Juan
Some people hit it early (like me), some people take time.
AC/DC
Master Don Juan
lol dude don't worry. My friend is 5'5". his girlfriend is oneof the most bangable girls I've ever seen. Don't even worry about it.
The TallOne
Don Juan
6'5"
Retrothe80sninja
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Oh man, I hear you on that one. (6'0 in 8th grade, 10th now, you guess
) I actualy got a joke from my old Gf that it felt funny dancing with me because I was so tall."I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Vigilante7
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thats too tall! no girls like men that tallOriginally posted by The TallOne
6'5"
6'0 - 6'2 is great
and im 6'2
I'm happy being 5'8, I'm taller than all the chicks, except for a few, and the ones taller than me are never as hot as the shorter onesOriginally posted by Vigilante7
thats too tall! no girls like men that tall
6'0 - 6'2 is great
and im 6'2
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
Dude, I feel your pain. I'm five foot six, and I think I'm done growing.
Has it affected my success with women? Maybe....some women like taller guys....but as a DJ, this shouldn't affect you. If you like them, height should make no difference.
By the way, jaycraze, lets switch places, shall we?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's true. I'm 5'4 and you don't know the number of times I've said that to myself. Yet after nearly 18 years, you'd think I'd just accept the way I am. But it's not easy, and somedays it just gets to me so much I just...
I always ask myself 'why'. Why am I like this? Why can't I be normal just like every other guy? I try to console myself by saying it could be worse, I could have some disease or something. But why should I have to do that? 99% of other people don't, why do I have to be in that ****ty 1% of the population?
I can even remember back in kindergarten people making comments about my height, and I can actually remember feeling self-conscious about it at that age. Can you imagine people making such judgements or comments about you at 5 years old? Now imagine that sort of thing every day, of your entire childhood. What effect do you think that would have?
You all have no idea. I know you're saying stop feeling sorry for yourself and get the fúck over it. I say that to myself. It is just that saying that to myself is easy, but following that advice is, I truly believe, close to impossible.
The TallOne
Don Juan
Oh really?
And where do you get this information from?
i know that tall is considered a good factor
i even know that handsome is good...
but why dark?! i've always heard that the blondes are considered far nicer... the same with ladies...
maybe there in america the cool ones are the dark?!?!
Double_Diamonds
Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.