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Don Juan
So. HB asks if you're a player/dj/etc...
What's your best response you can think of?
What's your best response you can think of?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HB: "Are you a player?"
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
LostAndConfused
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"you tryna get played?"
Mike32ct
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"Not really into sports. I was picked last in gym class lol."
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mike32ct
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You're welcome.Crissco said:
Newbies should avoid self-deprecating humor like my example, but experienced guys like Crissco can certainly pull it off and get a good laugh out of her.
Might at first glance seem like self-depreciation (which is usually not recommended), but it's not really.Mike32ct said:
You're taking her demand for information and putting it back at her in a humorous way (with the plausible deniability that you didn't know what she was really talking about, even though you both know that you did)..
I think this would work, especially if she knows (or it is obvious from your body) that you are fit and play sports.
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My typical response is a bit different:
"Are you a player?"
"Yeah, I am actually, love doing it... (pause for a second while she wonders did he REALLY say that?)
"Mostly cricket at the moment, but also do football and tennis".
(Modify sports to suit your own life)
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PrettyBoyAJ
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When a girl ask me this I just say. I date girls but I wouldn't consider myself a player. Why do you ask?
I'd just be straight up, no bull****tin, and say: "I know how the game works."
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.