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Don Juan
So. HB asks if you're a player/dj/etc...
What's your best response you can think of?
What's your best response you can think of?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
HB: "Are you a player?"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LostAndConfused
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"you tryna get played?"
Mike32ct
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"Not really into sports. I was picked last in gym class lol."
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You're welcome.Crissco said:
Newbies should avoid self-deprecating humor like my example, but experienced guys like Crissco can certainly pull it off and get a good laugh out of her.
Might at first glance seem like self-depreciation (which is usually not recommended), but it's not really.Mike32ct said:
You're taking her demand for information and putting it back at her in a humorous way (with the plausible deniability that you didn't know what she was really talking about, even though you both know that you did)..
I think this would work, especially if she knows (or it is obvious from your body) that you are fit and play sports.
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My typical response is a bit different:
"Are you a player?"
"Yeah, I am actually, love doing it... (pause for a second while she wonders did he REALLY say that?)
"Mostly cricket at the moment, but also do football and tennis".
(Modify sports to suit your own life)
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PrettyBoyAJ
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When a girl ask me this I just say. I date girls but I wouldn't consider myself a player. Why do you ask?
I'd just be straight up, no bull****tin, and say: "I know how the game works."
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.