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Don Juan
So. HB asks if you're a player/dj/etc...
What's your best response you can think of?
What's your best response you can think of?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
HB: "Are you a player?"
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"you tryna get played?"
Mike32ct
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"Not really into sports. I was picked last in gym class lol."
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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You're welcome.Crissco said:
Newbies should avoid self-deprecating humor like my example, but experienced guys like Crissco can certainly pull it off and get a good laugh out of her.
Might at first glance seem like self-depreciation (which is usually not recommended), but it's not really.Mike32ct said:
You're taking her demand for information and putting it back at her in a humorous way (with the plausible deniability that you didn't know what she was really talking about, even though you both know that you did)..
I think this would work, especially if she knows (or it is obvious from your body) that you are fit and play sports.
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My typical response is a bit different:
"Are you a player?"
"Yeah, I am actually, love doing it... (pause for a second while she wonders did he REALLY say that?)
"Mostly cricket at the moment, but also do football and tennis".
(Modify sports to suit your own life)
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
PrettyBoyAJ
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When a girl ask me this I just say. I date girls but I wouldn't consider myself a player. Why do you ask?
I'd just be straight up, no bull****tin, and say: "I know how the game works."
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.
You could also ask what her what her definition of a player is, exactly. In order to prevent being put in any slots you don't want to be put in to.
A girl don't know wtf a player is. I don't even know exactly what a player is.